(Closed) Expectations on how SO should propose?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: What is required of a proposal?
    He needs to get down on bended knee : (65 votes)
    32 %
    He needs to explain why he wants to marry me : (47 votes)
    23 %
    I don't care, I'm just happy if he proposes (even if there is no ring) : (39 votes)
    19 %
    I don't care, I'm just happy if he proposes with just a ring, standing up, or sideways : (50 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
    143 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    My dream proposal would be something intimate and private with a sweet/ romantic little speech (nothing too long). Something that I would be happy to tell friends, family and one day our kids πŸ™‚

    Post # 4
    1133 posts
    Bumble bee

    my dream proposal would be a complete surprise. sometimes i envision coming home from work and opening the door to my man down on one knee, with candles and flowers around the apartment. he would tell me how much he loves me and that he cant live without me. haha that totally brought tears to my eyes! i’ll give him credit he is great at surprises, and the man is VERY thoughtful. but honestly, whatever way he does it, will be the right way. i can just picture it though πŸ™‚ lol ::siiigh::

    Post # 5
    454 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m a wordy sort of gal, so I would love me some mushy words! 

    Post # 6
    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    My dream proposal included NO speech, no getting down on one knee, definitely not a surprise, and not in public. I am a very low key person and I do not like surprises, so when my husband and I talked out our marriage plans together, it made me feel much more comfortable in the mutual decision. He didn’t need to explain why he wanted to marry me, we already both knew.

    Post # 7
    289 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I was actually talking to my SO about this the other day and I mentioned that I wanted him to make a little speech how much he loves me and why he wants to marry me.

    He looked horrified and told me that he would already be freaking out about asking me and he doesn’t think he’ll be able to get the words out. I dismissed it and said it would be easy, so he asked to me to give him a demostration of what I should said.

    So I pretended to be him, got down on one knee and made a speech. It was really HARD. I kept laughing and I couldn’t get my words out. 

    I still want a little speech though but I guess as long as I hear the words “Will you marry me?” I’ll be happy πŸ™‚ 

    Edit: I sound crazy but we just doing it for fun (I’m embarrassed)

    Post # 8
    2893 posts
    Sugar bee

    The knee and ring aren’t a requirement. But the words are. Words mean everything to me, especially when they’re being backed by an action. There aren’t many times people profess their love for people, so I’d rather not miss it. πŸ™‚

    Post # 9
    390 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My only requirements were 1. get down on one knee, 2. I wanted it to be simple and just the 2 of us and 3. NO sports arena proposals.  He fufilled all 3 πŸ™‚

    Post # 10
    893 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @mmmk:  My Fiance proposed without a ring and there was no elaborate speech.  He did, however, get down on 1 knee.  Amazingly enough and to lucky for me, my dream proposal came true and I never even told my Fiance what it was.

    Good luck to all the waiting bee and may your dream proposals come true!

    Post # 11
    879 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    When I got engaged, he was not on one knee, there was no ring, he did not say “will you marry me” and I did not say “yes”

    But, we aren’t any less of engaged because of it

    Post # 12
    83 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My fiancé knew two things.  One that if he did it in a public spectacle, I would say no. Two if he didn’t get down on one knee I would say no.  I feel silly saying that now, but it was important to me.  I wanted it to be  a private moment between us, and the knee is something I have dreamed about since I was little.  

    Post # 13
    3461 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I told Fiance I wanted it to be just us, which it was.  I was a little disappointed he didn’t do down on one knee, and more so that he didn’t say why he wanted to marry me (in fact, walking over to the spot where he proposed, he worried about what would happen to us and if we’d divorce because of X, Y, and Z!  Definitely wished he didn’t do that.)  I didn’t need the ring for the proposal but it was nice he did have it.

    Post # 14
    28 posts

    I don’t really care if he gets down on one knee (though that would be so sweet…both knees do it too!), or if he has the ring on him at the time of proposal, or if we were just alone in the bedroom. However, I’d be very, very disappointed if he didn’t say a few short words before asking “Will you marry me?” and I probably wouldn’t really be able to hide my disappointment either. Even more so if he doesn’t even ask “Will you marry me” or something similar, just says something offhand like “We’re getting married, right?” Um, NO, I never said we were, you didn’t even ask me if I would marry you! lol. I know a lot of Bees have simple but still sweet proposals, but my description of a really lame proposal doesn’t even seem like something anyone could look back and laugh at.

    Of course, it’s all right if others mutually come to an agreement without any actual proposal, but I’d just like that extra little declaration, I guess. I don’t know.

    Post # 15
    10714 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I was laying on the couch when my Fiance proposed but he did get down on his knee… he said words but for the life of me I couldn’t remember what they were 2 minutes later I was just so happy and lost in sparkle land. 

    I didn’t expect anything more than a kiss and a question though…

    Post # 16
    273 posts
    Helper bee

    I dont know ladies…you expect a speech explaining why he wants to marry you? If it happens, it happens- but that this is how he “should” propose or for you to tell him how he should propose to you… This just seems bizarre to me. I guess every relationship is different.

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