(Closed) Expectations?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

omg that’s absurd.  i have three bridesmaids on one coast, and three on the other, so i’ll be very pelased to have them contribute in whatever they can.  i certainly don’t expect them to fly back and forth for pre-wedding events.  they are spending enough to be in the wedding itself.  my Maid/Matron of Honor is wonderful and is lucky enough to have free airfare, so she has mentioned doing one east coast bachelorette party and one west coast bachelorette party, which would be fab for the other bridesmaids.  she really is so sweet to coordinate this, but i would never expect it of her.  it was a very pleasant surprise! she has also mentioned organizing a bridal shower out here.

have i mentioned how wonderful my Maid/Matron of Honor is? lol

Post # 4
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5890 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

i also don’t expect them to pay for my participation in these events. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

The only money my maids are spending is for their dress. they can wear their own shoes and do their own hair. I am not having any showers or bach parties or engagement parties,because I feel its just more money spent and more financial stress on everyone. I personally dont understand why its necessary to have so many parties in your honor before your wedding.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Why two showers and why are they responsible for the bach party?  As in the grooms party?

Post # 7
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3267 posts
Sugar bee

My expectations are show up to the wedding. That’s it. If they want to throw a shower that is nice but I’d actually prefer they didn’t (I have enough stuff). B-party we are going to a friends cottage for the wknd, so just food for that but that is easy and we need to eat at home too.

They picked their own dresses and shoes and I told them they didn’t have to do hair or makeup but all said they wanted professionally done.

Your friend is under no obligation to host any pre events, and should decline if she can’t manage it.

Post # 8
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1486 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

that is crazy. 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

She should just say NO. 2 bridal showers and parties are no acceptable. I wouldn’t even pretend to entertain that’d I’d be pitching in for BOTH.

Post # 13
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5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

No this is rediculous. My girls were responsible for their dress 189 with tax. I told them where I am getting my hair and makeup done.. and said you are more then welcome to come, but not required to get your hair and makeup professionally done. It is outrageous that she is demanding showers and bach parties.. That should be something someone offers and if they are hosting and putting the things together they should not be required to give a gift in my opinion. The trip is an un justifyable expense. No offense but this bride is being WAY to demanding!!! Absolutely uncalled for someone needs to put her in check… or they should all back out until she comes to her senses… Oh and she cannot make them get shoes unless she wants to pay.. Or maybe she should just pay for all the outrageous things she is expecting them to shell out money for.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Wowie kazowie! This is crazy! I would never expect all this from my bridal party, in fact I don’t expect anything from them outside of paying for their dress. People kill me!

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