Post # 1
I was never one of those girls that thought I would have a wedding or that dreamed from a young age of what my wedding would be like. I had planned to go to the courthouse and have a friend who is judge do the honors. But oh how things changed. Now the plan is to get married in a church and have a reception in my hometown of less than 1500 people.
Now, I obsess over wedding websites and drool over other brides’ inspiration boards. I had such difficulty trying to pick out colors, because through all my searching, I saw so many pretty color combos and thought I could be happy with any one of them, but not one of them stood out over any other combo. After much deliberation, the colors for our wedding are a deep red and purple, because red is FI’s favorite color and purple is one of mine. Then to pick a theme! Finally, we decided that since it is taking place in a rural area, that we are now going to have a rustic theme to the wedding.
The problem now is that I stress over how to make it the perfect day with all the little details that it is taking the fun out of it all. I am trying to not expect so much from the day, other than to be married to my honey, but darn it, it’s so hard because I want other people to enjoy the day.
I know I am crazy, but I am sure there are a few of you out there like me. What do you all do to get over this?
Post # 3
i know exactly what you mean, and my advice is to take a break from wedding planning! it’s overwhelming, and there’s so much pressure to make sure every decision is absolutely perfect.
take some time to relax and remember what’s important — you’re getting married! no one will remember the flowers or diy projects in 5 years, but you’ll still be married.
Post # 4
@calico61979: Well I definitely know how you feel! I just have to bring myself back down to earth every now and then! I talk to my Fiance about things a lot and he really levels things for me. The best way to look at it is you are getting married to the person you want to be with forever and you invited all your friends to support you. Thats it! Of course you want it to be gorgeous but be sure to keep notice of what it’s really about….you and your fiance! Dont get worked up over colors and all the materialistic stuff, believe me I know it’s easy to. Just focus on making the day and the planning as positive as possible!
Post # 5
It’s easy to get overwhelmed, especially when looking at wedding blogs and magazines. Yes the most important thing is that you are getting married. And that *really* should be the only important thing. But you and I know that it isn’t. Other than funerals, weddings are the only thing that brings a family and community together anymore. So there is lots of pressure to make it perfect.
But perfect from the bride’s point of view is very different from a guest point of view.
From a guest point of view, they want to be comfortable, have plenty of food and drink and fun. Oh, and they want the bride and groom to have fun, be relaxed and look like they really love each other. (The worst wedding I’ve ever been too, the bride and groom seemed to be in a fight, soooo uncomfortable!)
From that point on, everything is about what will make you happy. My guests didn’t care that I decorated the escort cards; I’m sure they just threw them away. But it mattered to me and that’s all that counts. No one mentioned them, but I love looking at the pictures knowing how much effort I put into them
Ask yourself— if no one other than you notices your effort or detail, will you be upset? If you will be upset, then don’t do it. You are doing it for the wrong reason. Because the dirty little secret, is that no one will notice the little things you do as much you want them too.
So do the things that will make *you* happy or bring a smile to your face. Everything else doesn’t matter!