(Closed) expecting too much

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i know exactly what you mean, and my advice is to take a break from wedding planning! it’s overwhelming, and there’s so much pressure to make sure every decision is absolutely perfect.

take some time to relax and remember what’s important — you’re getting married! no one will remember the flowers or diy projects in 5 years, but you’ll still be married.

Post # 4
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@calico61979: Well I definitely know how you feel!  I just have to bring myself back down to earth every now and then!  I talk to my Fiance about things a lot and he really levels things for me.  The best way to look at it is you are getting married to the person you want to be with forever and you invited all your friends to support you.  Thats it!  Of course you want it to be gorgeous but be sure to keep notice of what it’s really about….you and your fiance!   Dont get worked up over colors and all the materialistic stuff, believe me I know it’s easy to.  Just focus on making the day and the planning as positive as possible!

Post # 5
5881 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

It’s easy to get overwhelmed, especially when looking at wedding blogs and magazines. Yes the most important thing is that you are getting married. And that *really* should be the only important thing. But you and I know that it isn’t. Other than funerals, weddings are the only thing that brings a family and community together anymore. So there is lots of pressure to make it perfect.

But perfect from the bride’s point of view is very different from a guest point of view.

From a guest point of view, they want to be comfortable, have plenty of food and drink and fun. Oh, and they want the bride and groom to have fun, be relaxed and look like they really love each other. (The worst wedding I’ve ever been too, the bride and groom seemed to be in a fight, soooo uncomfortable!)

From that point on, everything is about what will make you happy. My guests didn’t care that I decorated the escort cards; I’m sure they just threw them away. But it mattered to me and that’s all that counts. No one mentioned them, but I love looking at the pictures knowing how much effort I put into them

Ask yourself— if no one other than you notices your effort or detail, will you be upset? If you will be upset, then don’t do it. You are doing it for the wrong reason. Because the dirty little secret, is that no one will notice the little things you do as much you want them too.

So do the things that will make *you* happy or bring a smile to your face. Everything else doesn’t matter!

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