Post # 1
Sometimes I wonder if it’s all marketing- and if it is it’s working. After looking at designers like Monique Lluhlier and Vera Wang etc. (3-4K) range I just started looking at cheaper but beautiful dresses like the Casablancas. I think they are gorgeous but in the back of my mind I can’t help wondering what is being compromised- do they look cheaper? Or is it just that I been convinced to think that 4K is reasonable for a dress- when it’s the exact same material? THoughts?
Post # 3
They aren’t the exact same materials. The higher end dresses are usually silk and have better quality lace, hand beading, etc. At the lower end, it is definitely polyester and nylon. Whether or not it’s worth it is different for everyone. I dress in a classic, tailored fashion–lots of Ann Taylor and Talbots. They cost a little more but last forever. I spend a lot less money for “trendy” items. I had a David’s Bridal dress that was pretty, but I wasn’t happy with the fabric quality. However, I also couldn’t see spending $4K on a dress. I ended up with a beautiful Anne Barge gown from http://www.yourdreamdress.com. It actually cost les than the DB dress but is beautiful silk satin, etc.
You probably won’t find too many shops that carry both Casablanca and Vera Wang but try to visit in the same day. You’ll get a better feel for what is important to you. I think Casablanca and Jasmine do really nice dresses for their price points and I think they have some silk. Paloma Blanca also has some great price points. Good luck!
Post # 4
Just think about what yo udo for work. think about how long it takes to put up 4K for less then 8 hours of use. Think of a used car 4 K? hum. lot of driving. think of a vacation, honeymoon to even bora bora 4K. a week. Now do you want a friggin dress for 4K for 8 hours of who no one sitting in the pews is going to know but you your mother and your girls unless you go around posting how you purchase a so and so for x amount of dollars. Do the people really care. ? not.. yes, they are subtly blowing your mind and your dollars. Put it into a CD and have something next year.
Post # 5
I think it’s a really personal thing, and honestly, I think its unfair to say negative things about spending a lot of money on a dress. It depends on what is really important to you. For me, wearing polyester was not an option. I can’t stand the way it feels on. And it has nothing to do with what is more expensive or less expensive, but what is important to the person. If the type of fabric isn’t as important to you, then you know that you can look at different dresses that are made out of polyester. Honestly, most people can’t tell the difference, but it totally depends on what is important to you.
Go try on a few with different quality fabrics and see if you care about the difference. I know I tried on some Pronovias gowns that were less expensive than the dress I bought and the fabric felt INCREDIBLE. So, I think you can probably find something that works for you within several different price ranges.
Post # 6
If you can afford it, yes. I bought a Kenneth Pool dress and after alterations it will be just over $8,000. I absolutely love it! Do I care that it was that expensive, not at all. Fortunately we could afford it and it was within budget. Then again, my parents are footing the whole bill for our wedding and they want me to have whatever I want. Would I have bought this if we didn’t have the money and would have to finance it, of course not.
I think this is a very personal and subjective decision purely based on finances. I am sure there are some girls who would go into debt for something like this, but that isn’t me. If we can’t pay cash for it, then we won’t buy it.
Post # 7
I agree with the posters above–such a personal decision. Think of how you feel when you try on the cheaper dresses versus the more expensive ones. Do they look as good? Does the material look cheap to you or are you fine with it? If your dress has beading, is it well done or are the less expensive materials showing?
One thing I might add is that with lace dresses, again I don’t know what kind of dresses you are into, the quality of the lace is something to consider. There will be a noticeable difference between lace that costs less and the lace on a Monique or Vera gown.
Post # 8
I bought a Christos dress used. I still paid $900, plus $240 for alterations, and hope to get some of that back by selling it. For me it is absolutely worth it – for one thing the silk and Alencon lace make it very pretty. I far prefer silk to polyester. However, the biggest difference is the fit. I notice that in this dress and other high end clothes, like the 7 for all mankind jeans I picked up last week. Both make my hips look slim and are far more flattering than the cheaper dresses I tried on.
Post # 9
@tytbody: I think that you are being extremely catty by calling me a “spoiled brat” and that I should “sign up for Bridezilla.” I haven’t made any negative comments about dresses that are less expensive nor will I. Just because I have the funds for the dress doesn’t mean that I am a “spoiled brat.” You need to retract your claws.
THE OP asked if we thought buying a couture dress is worth it and I responded with my opinion, that yes, it is, if you can afford it. I personally would not go into debt for a dress if it wasn’t affordable, but that is just me. In all posts, there will be people who have opinions that you don’t agree with. I didn’t attack you and you have no reason to attack me.
Post # 10
I think it kind of depends on a few specific factors
1) what features you are looking for (i.e. fabric and style))
2) your preference
3) your budget!
4) your guest list– and how much you care about what they think.
IMO it is worth it to get a more expensive dress if you’re going with lace because I think that you can REALLY see a difference between cheap and more expensive lace. Other fabrics, like taffeta, are more forgiving. Also, are you going for something really dramatic or complicated? I’d say the more complicated you want to go… the higher likelihood you’ll need to go expensive. A more simple design is more forgiving.
Also think about your guests. My guests? Would NEVER know the difference between david’s bridal and kenneth pool… so any satisfaction i’d get out of a designer dress would be 100% personal and not at all about what other people thought. If your guests would really notice the difference and that matters to you… it is something to consider.
And of course, obviously, your budget!
ETA: for the record… I went with a simple taffeta gown that is relatively low-end… it is made by impression bridal and it cost about $800 🙂
Post # 11
@tytbody: Totally crossing the line. It’s really not fair to call her a bridezilla. I can only speak for myself, but name calling is inappropriate on Wedding Bee. She merely expressed her opinion, just as you expressed yours. And frankly, your opinion may be offensive to those who purchased more expensive dresses. Chill out.
The moral of the story is: do what is right for you. The important thing is that you feel beautiful on your wedding day! Beauty comes in all sorts of different styles, be it used, inexpensive, really expensive, etc. But I do agree that you should try to stick within your budget. No matter what position you are in, it’s probably not worth it to go into debt on your wedding dress.
Post # 12
@tytbody: Woah, hold on there. We don’t do personal attacks on here. @Mrs. Louboutin: was in no way saying anything “bratty” and I can vouch that she would never say anything about lower priced dresses, nor has she ever bragged about getting an expensive one. She answered the question that was asked. I think you crossed a line, big time, in your response. Bridezilla? Really?
Post # 13
@tytbody: Whoa, we don’t allow personal attacks on WB. Calling someone a “spoiled brat” among other insults is NEVER ok. Your comment has been deleted, and you account suspended for a week. Please remember to keep responses civil and on topic!
Post # 14
@fiji_girl: I never looked at any Vera’s… but I did try on a sample from kenneth pool and almost chose a justin alexander. I tried on quite a few that were $2-3k+. There is def. a quality difference in the materials, as well as the finishing and construction. I walked into Davids Bridal… and walked out after seeing the materials and “workmanship” of their dresses. I’m amazed that some of them are still $600+. Some companies like Mori Lee (which I also liked some of her stuff) is in the $4-500 range… and is better made!
I wound up falling in love with pronovias. The quality of the satin and tulle’s used is really really good. The workmanship and tacking/draping of the fabrics is exquisite. At $1800 I felt like I was in a $3000 gown. Conversely, the $2800 Justin Alexander felt like a $1500 gown ;-p
It’s definitely worth looking all over the gamut of designers for the one that best fits your personality and desires. For some, you do pay for the tag, but I have to say, if I could afford a Kenneth Pool, I would take one of his dresses in a heartbeat! Know your budget, know yourself, and go from there. I’m a structure snob, so the clean and amazing tacking/draping of Pronovias’ megan won me over 🙂
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I work in the fashion industry and for the most part, you get what you pay for. The more expensive dresses use more expensive fabrics, like real silk satin, and are probably use more intricate and difficult couture construction techniques. You also do pay a premium for the brand. It all depends on what you want to spend your money on. My best friend got a beautiful dress for under $500 dollars because she wanted to spend her money elsewhere. Is it an elaborate dress made with more luxurious fabrics?? no, but she looks beautiful in it and is happy that she used the money she saved for her ideal wedding band, which was more important to her.