(Closed) experience with drs while giving birth

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

 My first daughter I was given pitocin as well, to speed up the contractions. Boy did it work!! That was the only “drug” they gave me (i dont know what else to call it) She came out perfectly fine, at a normal birth speed, and within 4 hours of me getting the pitocin. My second (and last!) daughter, I was also given pitocin. She came out blue and purple, because the labor was so fast. She was in the NICU for 3 days.

 If you feel that strongly about it, talk to your doctors. If they say they cannot guarantee anything, try to find another doctor. (of course with the exception of an emergency, when they really might not have a choice!) The doctor is supposed to look out for your and your child’s best interest. Good luck with everything!!

Post # 4
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

My best advice is to shop around for a doctor you feel comfortable with, and that you feel respects your decisions.  I really love my doctor; she’s super patient and really takes time to explain things and makes sure I’m comfortable with her recommendation.  However, I find the other doctor in her practice to be kinda condescending and patronizing.  When I gave birth, I actually had a totally different doctor from another practice that I had never met before.  He was wonderful, though, and he really listened to me during birth.  I had a very easy labor and birth, and the attending doctor made sure he had my permission before doing anything.

Also, remember that you are your best advocate.  It’s up to you to voice your concerns, ask questions, grant or revoke permission, etc…  Because birth is such an intense experience, it’s a good idea to have someone else there (partner, relative, doula, etc…) to help you during labor/birth.  You might ask a question and then get a contraction and not hear the answer, so it’s best to have someone else there who can repeat the information on your terms.

Finally, I’ll add that from my own personal experience, I learned it’s best to plan for all possibilities.  It’s possible that during birth you won’t be able to handle the pain and you’ll need some kind of medicated relief.  Or that you will have some kind of emergency and need an intervention for the safety of your baby.  If you have a game plan going in, and know what you will/will not give permission to and under what circumstances, you’ll be better able to voice those reasons to your doctor during birth and be able to reason your way through the doctor’s recommendation.  An educated patient is much more able to persuade a doctor than a person who came in unprepared and is making decisions based on emotions. 

Post # 5
447 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Well, I was induced, because my hospital doesn’t let you go beyond a week (I was 40 weeks 4 days when I was induced). I was also 3 cm, 75% effaced by this time and wasn’t progressing past that. This is just so you know the conditions behind it. Also, my doctor was not there that day. I had another doctor that I had met before.

So, to start off, I was given pitocin. I was probably on it for about 4 hours before they came in and broke my water. Now, I was not warned or even told at all that they would be doing this, so I guess you could say it was against my wishes. It was the most uncomfortable part of the process, aside from given birth of course.

Other than that, my wishes were respected. I decided to get an epidural, though I had first stated that I didn’t want one, but it was my choice. I wasn’t pressured into having one done. It really helped speed things along too. My only complaint is that they really didn’t keep me updated on what they were doing and when.

The doctors kept my labor going at as normal a rate as possible. It wasn’t rushed at all; I gave birth after 12 hours. I had absolutely no complications during the process. My daughter was born without any problems.

Post # 6
5823 posts
Bee Keeper

I talked to my OB a lot about what I wanted for my birth.  I was very insistent about it, had a printed birth plan (which he faxed to the hospital to have on file), and we talked at length about his standard procedure and why he does what he does.  I had every faith that he would stick with my plan.  (And he did.)  I also visited the hospital with a gift basket for a tour and another copy of my birth plan.  We had a gift basket waiting so that when I went into labor we had something for all the doctors and nurses.  At the very least, it didn’t hurt.  Everyone at the hospital was super nice to us!

If you’re that worried, then write a birth plan, talk about it with your doctor, and make sure the hospital has a copy.

I received an epidural (requested) and pitocin.  I had dialated so fast that my contractions weren’t yet organized and normal.  So the pitocin just gave my body the rhythm to deliver.  I also did not receive an episiotomy (as requested).  So I think it really depends on the situation and the birth.

Post # 8
7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I didn’t even really feel that I needed a birth plan because I picked an OB who was so on board with what I was wanting.  We wrote that sucker up, but never even handed it to anyone.

I had pitocin augmentation and I’m so glad, because I might have gotten tired without it and possibly ended up with a C section (36+ hours of labor is long!). I used it only toward the end when I was already in active labor to get further progress quicker.

I held out until I knew labor was well established for the epidural too, but man was it a godsend.  Seriously in love with my epidural!

The one thing I was really strong about was not wanting an episiotomy unless absolutely necessary.  Didn’t get one nor did I tear… but again I’ll tout the benefits of laboring down which I think was my saving grace.

Ultimately you should make sure you like the whole OB group because you never know who’ll be on call when you go in.  In my case, it was my OB and she came back after her shift to deliver me πŸ™‚

I had what I think is the absolute best birth experience ever!

Post # 9
1805 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I don’t want to go on forever on this (and believe me, I CAN!).

The best thing I think you can do is start networking NOW with local moms to hand pick your doctor NOW.

I know one doc in my city (OB/Gyn) who also works with certified nurse midwives in his practice as well.  So you can choose them or him and have him as back up or however you want it.

I talked to people at La Leche League (you can totally go to a meeting, pregnant or not, baby or not, helpful if you are planning on nursing anyway).. I talked to women in local homebirth type groups.  I talked to moms who’d already had kids who were in my natural birthing childbirth class  (Bradley method)… I found women online (Mothering magazine’s website has categories for local forums; found our most recent pediatrician that way too)..  basically just researched and asked around a LOT.

I really have doctor phobia, but with the one I chose it was AWESOME and I wasn’t scared/freaked out at all.  He really worked to build up trust during all our prenatal visits.  My first birth experience was a nightmare.  Literally. The emergency c-section WAS totally necessary (I had placenta abruption and was losing blood quickly).. so I don’t have issues with that.  It was the hospital experience after he was born.  OMG.  Horrid, just horrid.  So I went into birth number two with a lot of fears and issues. I think that’s why it took me almost five years to decide on child number 2! I really wanted a homebirth but the VBAC aspect scared me so I was determined to have a lot of control in any hospital situation.

The OB I chose is known here in town as the “male midwife”.  He used to attend homebirths too.  He is awesome.  Just wonderful. 

I was having a VBAC (1st born was emergency c-section) and I wanted a no intervention, drug free hospital birth.  So the next step also involved asking around about area hospitals and then asking them directly about their policies.

I achieved my goal.  Number one thing was having my doctor write specific things into HIS orders, and any time the nurses wanted to do things that were unnecessary and I didn’t want, we just referred them to his orders on my chart.

I also hired a doula and I would totally recommend it.  She was worth every penny and kept things on track and kept the nurses off my back so I could focus on my job of having my baby.

My doc was totally “hands off” and I trusted him so much that had he told me something was necessary I would have totally believed him…   he was actually there for a very good part of the labor which is almost unheard of (and I was in labor for 32 hours!). 

There were some bumps and frustrations but they were quickly resolved. Example; I had a private birthing room with only family present, oh and my BFF of course and the paid doula, but the nurses kept trying to cover my nakedness up.  Annoying! They didn’t want me in the shower like I wanted even though it helped tremendously with my back labor, and they kept trying to put me on the monitors forever even though there was NO reason to do so, but having people around to run interference with them and refer them to the “doctor’s orders” REALLY helped. In the end I had an amazing and empowering experience delivering my son. 

All 10lbs, 13 ounces of him! πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

Whew.  See, I went on and on anyway!

Post # 11
1813 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m reading Ina May’s book right now.  (a little late I know!)  I also did find the appendices helpful in WTE & the Mayo book on birth.  I was surprised to find that even these more “mainstream” books seemed to paint a picture with fewer interventions (or at least delayed interventions…try to work it out yourself first) than what I see often in practice in hospitals.  Plus, the appendix was enough to make it digestable. 

Reading through some of the birth plan sites will give you a better idea where to focus your research as well.

Post # 12
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Probably the best labor/birth book I read was The Birth Partner by Penny Simkin.  It’s super informative and covers practically everything that can happen during birth.

Post # 13
1805 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@mrstilly:  I can see where your husband’s family is coming from.  My son and I are alive today due to the medical knowledge of the docs who saved us from what was about to be death for us both.  I was losing blood rapidly, had lost a LOT before even getting to the hospital, and my son was in a uterus filling with blood.  He also aspirated blood and meconium before they could suction him.  So, I know how thankful your inlaws are about their son and their situation.  I am too!

That doesn’t mean, however, that every birth needs to be “medicalized”.  That doesn’t mean that many, many “standard” things done are unnecessary and even harmful. πŸ™‚ And in the end, while I feel you should be respectful and understanding, these decisions should be made by you, your  husband, and your health care provider.

I think that having your stepmom there could be helpful, but only if you two are on the “same page”.. so in that regard you should have many frank and detailed discussions with her.  It depends on her personal views (and views as a nurse) of the birthing process.  I’ve known nurses who were totally in line with my way of thinking, and some who were just the opposite.  The nurses present when my second son was born were pretty much “by the book”… as in ‘we want to do X because it’s what’s done, regardless of if you need it or not’.  That’s where having an advocate and “doctor’s orders” in writing helped so much.


Finally, good for you for being proactive about this!

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