(Closed) Experience with Honeymoon Registries?

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
3081 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

This topic can get a little controversial on here, but we did choose to do a honeymoon registry through honeyfund. We also did a small Macy’s registry for upgrades to kitchen things and appliances for those guests who don’t like or understand the idea of a honeymoon registry. But our guests are loving it so far, as most of them know how much we love to travel and how excited we are for our honeymoon.

The advice I was given was to make the entries really interesting and specific…so rather than “hotel cost” or something generic, you would put a more exciting description of exactly what it is and why it’s so special. We also only put “extras” on there, and have already booked and paid for all the main stuff ourselves (flights, hotels, transportation, etc.). 

Post # 4
2853 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My biggest problem with Honeymoon registries is the percentage that’s taken out as a transaction fee. As a guest, I’ll write a check so 100% (not 93%) of my gift goes to the couple.

Post # 5
5493 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

We did a honeymoon registry through Honeyfund and I have also given gifts through honeymoon registries.

Our honeymoon registry got bought out before all of our other registries and we got great feedback from our guests about it.  We made our items specific.  Like “couples massage” or “dinner for two in rome” or one night stay at luxury hotel in Santorini.  When we wrote our thank you cards we made sure to mention the specific experience and how much we enjoyed it.  We used honeyfund and there was no transaction fee.  Some people wrote a check and some paid through pay-pal.  Pay pal does take out 3% service charge, (they do that with any purchase you make through paypal).

When I see that a couple has a honeymoon registry I always try to gift through that isntead of a traditional registry. 

Post # 6
5473 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

atalante (message)    May 19, 2012   Maryland

My biggest problem with Honeymoon registries is the percentage that’s taken out as a transaction fee. As a guest, I’ll write a check so 100% (not 93%) of my gift goes to the couple.

^^THIS!  We are not doing a honeymoon registry mainly for this reason.  I own a home and we already live together, so we don’t really NEED anything, but we are going to do a traditional registry to upgrade some of our household items.  Luckily for us, most of his family usually gives money as a gift, so why not get 100% of the money instead of a percentage of their gift going to some third party?

Post # 7
2703 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It’s usually recommended not to do Honeymoon registries because it’s like asking for cash and many people think it’s rude.  A lot of people also don’t mind helping a couple start their new lives together, but they don’t want to help fund the couple’s vacation.  However, since your family is suggesting it and if you don’t think anyone else would be offended, then you could consider doing one.  I will say though, that most, if not all, Honeymoon registries I’ve heard of are misleading.  For one, when your guests purchase something, say a dinner or day at the spa, they aren’t actually giving you a dinner or spa day.  The company running the registry just cuts you one big check and it’s up to you how you actually want to spend the money.  The company also usually takes a cut of the money – something like 7-10%.  So if your guest wanted to buy you a spa day for $100, you only get a check for $90.  So it’s really better for your guests just to write you a check. 

If you can find a Honeymoon registry that doesn’t charge a fee and actually gives you what your guests paid for and not just a big check at the end, then I think you can do it (but I don’t know of anyway like this).  If you can’t find one, and if you really have everything you need, then I would suggest either doing a very small registry (maybe there are some upgrades you could use?) or no registry.  And then when people ask about a registry, you just say that you have everything you need but are saving up for a honeymoon (spread by word-of-mouth).  If I know that you’re saving up for a honeymoon, I’ll give you some cash for it. =)

However, please note that I’m in the camp that likes to give people experiences rather than a material good, and it’s important to remember that not all people are like this.  If you ever go to the Knot, everyone there will tell you Honeymoon registries are terrible, tacky, and rude.  Just something to keep in mind.  I hope I was at least somewhat helpful =/

Post # 9
189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

A friend of mine used honeyfund rather then a registry as she and her partner already had all the items they wanted. She added a small note along the lines of “presents are not needed but if you would like to give a gift please go to [website here]”. I wasn’t offended by it, but I know its considered bad etiquette to even mention gifts (money, honey moon registry or otherwise) on a invite as it can appear like the couple is just asking for presents or money etc.I also know that it can also be considered rude to ask for money if someone asks if you do have a registry – so it can be very tricky.

I think it all comes down to your choice and knowing how the people you are inviting feel about it – as you said your family think its a good idea then hopefully that means no one will be offended if thats what you decide to do. I would personally play it safe and make a small registry of upgrade/replacements of items that are looking a bit worse for wear and simply give people the choice to give whatever type of gift (if any) they want.

Post # 10
2 posts
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@Sibiohan:  We used a honeymoon registry, and our guests really liked it. I think it’s because we travel a lot and we even had a travel-themed cake (it was tasteful, a globe with footprints to places we’ve been and then a miniature bride and groom sitting on top). I also hate the high fees that honeymoon registries seem to take, but I don’t like the free Honeyfund designs with all the ads.  I think our guests understood that we’d been living together for a while, so we really just needed help going on our hoenymoon. 

I just found out about wanderable — they do honeymoon registries too, except they have no ads in the free version. The design is pretty cute, too. They also use paypal bu have the option of giving it in person (cash or check). It seems like they actually mean “free” when they say they’re free — other than PayPal costs, I haven’t seen any fees. Has anyone used them or had any experience with them?

Post # 11
45 posts
  • Wedding: February 2012

we used depositagift.com and loved it. my issue with honeyfund, besides the ads, was the IOU format. we wanted our guests to be able to use a credit card like they would with a store registry. from my research, deposit a gift is the nicest one out there. yes there is a fee, but it’s small, and In My Humble Opinion it’s worth it: still less than tax/shipping/gift wrap, nicest interface, includes a wedding website if you want it, room for pics and video, easy to setup b/c they have registries done for you by destination and you can also register for more than travel (we added furniture and date nights). plus they have the best customer service i’ve ever experienced.

Post # 12
6 posts
  • Wedding: September 2011

@rainstar17:  We used depositagift.com too and we LOVED it! So did our friends. We registered for all the stuff for our honeymoon like the flight, hotel, food, and other fun stuff. We also put on a few normal registry things like dishes and a mixer we needed (which some of our older guests appreciated). But in the end it was awesome because we just got the cash that we needed to have an incredible honeymoon! I highly recommend it. Nobody had any complaints about etiquette. They really loved that they could give us a totally amazing time.

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