(Closed) Exqueeze me?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Is it possible for her to just go on her own and text you pictures of the dresses as she’s trying them on? I know it’s not ideal but if she’s unwilling to compromise then there’s not much that can be done. 

Post # 5
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10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Mrs. Meowerson: Oh, that is annoying. I don’t blame you for wanting that experience with your only local ‘maid. Is there a reason she doesn’t want to do this on a weekend or is she just one of those difficult chicks?

Post # 7
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10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Mrs. Meowerson: No, I don’t think you’re overreacting, especially since she is the only local. I think if I were you I would try to get her to agree to some weekend, even if it’s in like a month from now. She can’t be booked solid every second of every weekend. 

Post # 8
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918 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Mrs. Meowerson: Is she your fi’s friend?  If that’s the case, I would have him mention something to her about how important it is to you to be able to get the bridesmaid dress shopping experience, so if she could try to find a weekend that she’s free it would mean a lot to you guys.

FWIW I’d be pissy about it, too!

Post # 10
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2889 posts
Sugar bee

If it makes you feel better, I let my Maid/Matron of Honor try on dresses and send me photos and even thoguh she was not the most difficult to dress (she’s a perfect size 4) based on that picked the dresses and the other BMs also tried them on and sent me photos. In the end everyone looked great and we even discussed alterations via email. I think you could just get photos from her and ask her not to buy anything until you can give final approval, maybe you can organize a weekend that you can go and try on the top 2 if it comes down to it. 

Post # 11
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10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Mrs. Meowerson: Well that’s just something she’s going to have to get over. She doesn’t have a real reason for not wanting to go. If she had concrete plans that she couldn’t get out of then sure, I’d understand but not wanting to go because it’s too crowded is unacceptable. She’s not the bride, you are. When you accept the bridesmaid position you have to be willing to work with the bride as long as her requests are reasonable, which yours totally are. 

Post # 13
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285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think you’re overreacting. Some people don’t like to try on clothes in front of others. I know I certainly don’t. Especially if those people watching are going to be judging. (I don’t mean judging in a bad way, like you’ll be telling her to lose five lbs, just oh I don’t like XYZ on this one). You picked out the dress. She’s going to try it on. She’ll send you pics. If you hate it, she’ll try on another dress. I don’t think it’s a big deal. 

Post # 14
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3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Mrs. Meowerson: I could see how you want the experience together.  What if she buys that day?!

Post # 15
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566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

If she’s going to be difficult you might not want to have the shopping experience with her. It could be more drama that you need. Just let her send pictures of the ones she likes.

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