(Closed) Ex's Baby Pictures- what do I do with them?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: What should I do with the ex's pictures?

    Toss 'em and stop feeling guilty about it

    Contact him and offer to send them

    Contact his wife and offer to send them

    Do a dance and sing to the four winds before burning and burying them in ritualistic ceremony.

    Other

  • Post # 33
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    @MexiPino:  I discovered recently that if you’re not their friend, then FB PMs go into an “Other” folder which they’re not notified about. I recently found an old PM from months ago there. So a Facebook PM may not be enough, you really want to (temporarily) become his friend.

    So if he’s on Facebook, instead I suggest you create a facebook account called something like:

    “Lia Smith-has-old-photos-she-wants-to-return”

    Then send him a friend request. Hopefully he’ll realise you’re not a stranger, or trying to harass him.

    If it goes to plan, he’ll accept the request and then you can get an address off him, and later delete the old Facebook account when you’re done.

    Post # 34
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @MexiPino:  Like many others, I would attempt to get them back to him. This is why I say this:

     

    When my high school boyfriend and I broke up, he had a scrapbook of mine from a school project, which required us to have many photos from our childhood included. Well, years later I realized he had it last, and I wanted it back. I contacted him, and HE THREW IT AWAY! There were dozens of photos that there were they ONLY copies. So needless to say I was upset, cuz he didn’t even try to contact anyone in my family to get it back to me.

    Post # 35
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I would contact him thru facebook, tell him you found some old pictures, get an address and drop them in the mail. Done.  

    Post # 37
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’d mail them to him.

     

    Post # 38
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    7367 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Scan them, so there is a back up and mail them.

    Post # 39
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    Helper bee

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    @MrsPanda99:  This. His photos are his responsibility. If he wanted them back, he would have asked for them back. He didn’t. Not your responsibility. Trash them.

    Post # 40
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Send a quick message: “Hey X I found a few old childhood photo albums that belong to you, I’m moving and was wondering if you would like me to send them to you?”

    Post # 41
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Have you tried to look up their address on White Pages.com? I used that route when compiling addresses for a class reunion, and it worked out pretty well! Just a thought — that way you don’t have to deal with his creepy online stalker wife at all.

    Post # 42
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Another vote for trying to get them to him.

    I disagree with the Bees who say trash them.

    First, because technically they aren’t yours (you may have them in your possession, but they are of HIS LIFE)

    And as someone who is Divorced I can tell you is devastating when people hold onto your stuff… and then destroy it.

    Try as you might, one cannot get back somethings from the past… especially when it comes to photos (Baby Photos, School Pictures, Yearbooks, etc)

    This “stuff” becomes way more important to you as you age… which is also why probably some Bees here just don’t get WHY it might mean something to someone else.  They just haven’t reached that point in their lives yet where it is meaningful to them … so cannot comprehend why it might be so for someone else.

    I like the idea that

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    @paula1248:  put forth in Reply # 32

    Hope this helps,

     

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