(Closed) Ex's new wife is excluding me. Explanation post.

posted 1 year ago in Beehive
Post # 46
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2894 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

EllyAnne :  Jen the work wife wasn’t long enough ago for the divorce and remarriage to have happened surely?

But yeah OP is cray cray in this situation.

Post # 47
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1977 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

Twizbe :  It just seems a bit too coincidental that OP called the new wife ‘Jen’ in the now deleted post. In made up land 7 months is enough time!

Post # 48
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2894 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

EllyAnne :  I suppose so – I did notice the use of Jen in the previous post. Quick divorce courts then where OP is. I am sure at the end of the Jen thread though she had decided to ignore her husband’s blantant cheating

Post # 49
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349 posts
Helper bee

EllyAnne :  On soap operas, the kids generally age 5-10 years a season, so anything is possible. #nursebettysyndrome

Post # 50
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9550 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

ukbea :  gotta have somewhere to pitch those new ideas for a juicy novel.

Post # 51
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405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

Without even having to read this entire post, only the subject, I was instantly confused as to why you would want to maintain such ties with a person whom has obviously ( re-married!) moved on from you? If YOU were to have moved on and married someone else would you want your ex constantly trying to interrupt things? Sometimes in order to understand someone’s point of view we must put ourselves in their shoes. Although you may not see your behaviors as invasive, I can understand how they may be percieved that way. If you were close friends with your Ex-husband before he got re-married that’s fine and dandy but once he got married again out of respect you should have removed yourself. And lastly, but MOST importantly if a man cheated on me while we were married I would have happily let him go and he wouldn’t have to worry about me anymore, it makes you look a bit pathetic (lack of better word) to try and hold on to something that is clearly not worth it, I’m sure you can do so much better.

Post # 52
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6291 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

Jeff sounds like a dirtbag piece of shit. He’s a cheater and is clearly giving you different signals and messages than what his wife was conveying to him. It sounds like you are the better off in this situation, though. At least you aren’t stuck sharing a child with a man who lies and cheats and disrespects his vows and his wives’ boundaries (whichever wife).

Also- if Jeff is actually attempting to be polyamorous, the entire way he is going about this is wrong and bound to cause issues. Polyamory requires honesty and open communication and also RESPECTING THE AGREED UPON BOUNDARIES OF THE RELATIONSHIP. Jeff is just some asshole with a wandering dick.

Post # 53
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2782 posts
Sugar bee

TwilightRarity :  THIS

I respect that some people are polyamorous and have polyamorous friends (though it’s not for me) but polyamoury doesn’t usually start with affairs and it’s not dictated or decided on by one or two people – it needs to be established with mutually agreed upon with  boundaries by all parties involved. It’s generally not a ‘solution’ to a cheating husband. 

It seems to me like Jeff is dicking you both around and getting exactly what he wants, while the two of you scrabble to maintain whatever hold on him that you can. I sincerely doubt that Jeff’s current partner was happy with the original agreement, she likely just didn’t say anything because she felt guilty about having ‘taken’ him from you. And now that there’s a baby on the way she’s finally asserting her needs. 

Post # 54
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408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

What the fuck did I just read??? Where are you from? Is Jeff the only man in your society??? Are you for realz?

Post # 55
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378 posts
Helper bee

This is multiple levels of creepy.

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