(Closed) Extended family inviting themselves… and their kids! on facebook!

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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945 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Ack! I had a relative do the same thing just yesterday! I’m sorry :/ 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Wow! So basically they just want to use your wedding to get together, not because they want to share your moment with you. I wouldnt write back either or I would say I was pretty much at my max for inviting people.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I would send her a private message and say “I’m sorry but space at our venue is limited and we can’t invite everyone.  <Cousin> and <drug addict> can get together another time and will have plenty of fun.”

Not responding opens the door for her to think that it’s ok for her to find the info somewhere else and spring this kid on you at your wedding.  Tell her no, in no uncertain terms now so that this won’t be an issue later.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@zomgwut:  +1.  If she thinks it’s ok to do what she did, she will likely take silence as “it’s ok.”

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would delete the comment and say “we are already at max capacity. Maybe we can catch up some other time” 

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@zomgwut:  has the right idea. If you don’t address its swiftly and head on, you going to keep having to deal with it. Nip it in the bud.

Post # 9
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5245 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Ugh! That is super annoying!! I would sy what a previous sposter wrote that you are at max capacity and cant invite anyone else

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@bklynbridetobe:  Thank you for saying bud and not “Butt”

 

People never cease to amaze me.  I agree, say something like “our guest list is set. Hopefully they can catch up another time!”

Post # 11
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1307 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Tell her the date, but that your cousin (or whoever it is that needs a plane ticket) is not invited.

Post # 12
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110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@MrsPeachMartini:  happens to me all the time and i just let them know it’s an intimate wedding so it’s invitation only. And if they continue I tell them straight up you are not invited!

Post # 13
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174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@zomgwut:  Absolutely. OP, make sure you address it directly or she might just send the daughter anyway. I would send a private message and explain that you are limited due to space and that you are already at maximum capacity. Just don’t mention budget (not sure you would, but just in case) because there are plenty of horror stories on the Bee of people offering to pay to attend. Good luck dealing with this incredibly rude woman!

Post # 15
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451 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think this is a good reminder to censor what you post on FB.  Not everyone is going to be invited to your wedding and so might not appreciate constant updates about it (not saying you are…) but take into consideration if people aren’t invited, how they will feel if you are constantly updating about it. 

Post # 16
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998 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

This is one reason I’m glad I deleted my FB account. Glad it worked out!

 

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