Post # 1
- Wedding: August 2012 - Sunset Harbour
How is everyone handling this?? I’m terrified that we are going to end up using our entire cocktail hour taking pictures that I don’t even really WANT – like pictures with cousins.
I’m thinking about sending out ‘photo passes’ with the invites to those guests that we would like to take pictures with after the ceremony so we don’t have to chase them down.
Post # 3
One photographer (the only one yet) we met with suggested having a list and giving it to a guest who is normally quite assertive and would be good at taking charge. He said to get them to organise people and send them in for the photo and organise the next group so that the bride & groom aren’t waiting around for ages and aren’t chasing themselves or having the photographer chase.
Post # 4
I think photo passes is a bit weird. If I got that in an invitation, I’d think that now I have to have a ticket to have the “honor” of taking a picture with you. Personally, it rubs me the wrong way.
Tell your photographer your concerns ahead of time, and make sure you have someone going through your timeline to make sure everything gets done as it needs to be. But as the PP said, you generally have someone who knows most of the guests chase down the people you want pictures with, and then go enjoy your party, where there will be even more pictures.
Post # 5
We didn’t do them, just a couple of poses with immediate family (parents, siblings, children) and they only took about 15 minutes. I think those pics are a waste since they aren’t ones that I’d want in my album or framed in my house. It was more important for me to spend time with our guests and have photos of us enjoying ourselves than have boring posed photos with family members I’m not that close with. It worked for us, but every family is different.
Post # 6
@reebee: I agree. I’m not going to care about pictures with cousins in 20 years. If I want those, I’ll get them at the reception when we’re having fun.
Post # 7
Where I live, it’s not very common for the professional photographer to take pictures of anyone but the wedding party and immediate family in the formal sense.
If anyone wants pics with the bride and groom, it’s on thier own camera afterwards at the reception!
There is a photobooth trend here, where people can hire the photog for an extra hour or so to take the fun pics. Black drop cloth, feather boas, the whole nine. It’s kinda fun.
Most weddings, probably 99% of the weddings I have ever been to, have the same pattern. Ceremony, in the afternoon at 3:00 or so, A few family pictures outside the church maybe, Bride / Groom / Wedding party go in a big limo and get thier photos done at various locations (parents usually come too) then Reception Dinner and dance at 6:30. That’s how it’s always been done around here from what I can remember. You need a couple of hours for photos because you might go to 3 or 4 locations!
So interesting to see how people do it differently in different places 🙂
Post # 8
Make a list of your priority photos so your photographer knows what you do want.
Get those done first so you know that time will not be an issue for those pics.
Many couples do want to use the opportunity to get photos of the family as we are so rarely all in the same place these days.
If you do want to do this, ask a close friend or family member to be in charge of rounding people up so that the right people are in the right place at the right time.
Be prepared that people will ask if they can get their picture taken with Aunt Suzy etc.
Calmly say that you have a plan and need to stick to it. Your wedding is not the time for these people to use your photographer, your money and your time to get the pic they want.
Post # 9
I had a small family, so we really didn’t have to worry about that… but I would suggest (if you want particular pictures) to get some of them out of the way before the ceremony??
Post # 10
For my wedding I thought about doing the extended family photos at the reception, and having my mom in charge, having the dj announce that all famiy needs to gather outside so as soon as my fiance and I get off our limo/arrive at the reception we can hop in for pics quick and be done??