Post # 1
Me and my SO had a whole plan about when we would get engaged (anytime now!) and when we would get married (next September!) but some unexpected events have happened that have forced us to delay our marriage/end of LDR for another YEAR to maybe September 2012.
We are both so sad (maybe even him more than me) and upset (we are both Type A planners) but practicality gets in the way again. Not only that but next year we will both be even busier/financially tighter and visiting is going to be even harder than it already is. Now I’m going to be moving ahead of him to our new location and am going to have to do it alone.
Has anyone else had an unexpected delay in their LDR? Any words of advice on how to keep going after you reset the countdown?
So sad 🙁
Post # 3
I’m sorry the long distance was extended! From what you have said, it sounds like it would have been hard on you financially if you had gotten married next year. The first few years of marriage are tough enough without adding financial problems on top of it.
Post # 4
Not exactly the same, but we’ve never really had an ending date. It ends when he gets a job in my city. So there have been lots of times it seemed like it was going to work out soon and then let downs. We’ve been long distance for almost 2 years and he’s been job searching actively for a year and a half. It is very frustrating since we are not planning on getting married until we are in the same place. I don’t really have any advice for you, but just wanted to let you know I understand. Best of luck and hopefully something works out in the meantime. 🙂
Post # 5
Yes, we thought it was over when he graduated undergrad in 2008, but he didn’t get into the grad school by me so we were going to be long distance until he graduates. Now after that he was supposed to be moving here in June, but like I mentioned in my thread, he got the job that is delaying it another 9 weeks. I’m okay with this delay, but I was kind of devastated with the first delay. I guess I just thought he’d get into school here no problem. It sucked for a couple weeks and then I just got back into the normal routine and just restarted the whole countdown. 😛 Try just relaxing, take a bath and drink some wine or something….you’ll feel better about it soon.
Post # 6
I figured that we would not have to deal with being away from each other after this summer, he won’t be back until August 3rd. Well my fiance has decided that he want’s to go on staff with a college ministry and if he does then that would mean when we get married he would be gone from home for a few days in the fall, every New Years and Spring Break for college students and for 7 weeks in the summer. I know I should be happy that he’s serving Christ, but I can’t help but think that it’s unfair that we’ve had a long distance relationship since we started dating and now he wants to do this when we get married.
Post # 7
I hear ya, my LDR is all based on the government, and I have no control over it, which kills me. I know when we will be married, heck 280ish days, but that isn’t when the LDR ends. We are hoping that will end sooner, but like I said it is up to the government, so I feel like I can’t even guess at my date for it to end. A couple of months ago it was only supposed to be for a month, well that didn’t work, so now we are sitting and waiting again and now it is looking more like anywhere between 5 months to 1.7 years. Yeah it sucks, but we are here for you!
Just remember that when you guys do finally get together and plan your wedding it will all be worth it, and imagine the stories you will have to tell at your 25th wedding anniversary party!