Extra work vs. more time with my baby. Advice needed.

posted 3 months ago in Career
Post # 17
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889 posts
Busy bee

burntorangeskies :  That is such a tough call!!  How long would you want to work at the per diem job?  Like just a year or two for the extra cash and experience?  Or do you think you’d want to maintain that level of work commitment for a long time?  Additionally, the part where you mentioned that you’d close the door to working in that environment if you don’t keep you those skills really resonates with me.  How do you feel about potentially never being able to work with that population again?

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Maybe I’m callous, but I say go for the job. The time away is cumulative. Think back on the past week; there were probably a lot of mundane moments. I’m a firm believer in quality of time spent together, not quantity, and that we as moms (I say all this as a working mom) are better moms living out our goals because it provides our children something to look up to. You don’t want to limit your future options — your career and/or your husband staying at home — by bypassing your current ones.

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee

For me it would be a no. I wouldn’t want to sacrifice my time with my baby and family to spend time with other people’s. 

Post # 20
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450 posts
Helper bee

MsPlucky :  exactly what I was going to say! Who’s family

comes first? Yours or theirs? 

Post # 21
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316 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I leave my high paying job to spent more time with my daughter =). Still working, but straight 8 hour and always go home on time, and still feel they grow up so fast. So personally I would’t take that job especially you don’t need the money. But that’s me though..

Post # 22
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Newbee

I think you should take the job. You’re not prioritizing other babies and families over yours. Don’t think of it like that. Taking the other job would be personally fulfilling which in itself will allow you to be a happier and better person for your family. Doing something that you truly love contributes to the overall health of your family. Also, you’ve already pointed out how this would allow you to have more time in the future for your family. You really won’t be missing that much more of your baby’s life. The worst part about if you turn it down is that you will never be able to go back to it. Not many people get a job that they truly love, they normally just settle. That’s what you will be doing. Make the time you spend with your little one quality time and everything should work out well. 

Post # 23
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1973 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

This is a hard yes for me. Right now you only work 3 days a week, so it’s not like you’re doing the typical 5-day a week that most jobs that are full-time expect. You’re already getting two extra days a week at home that most people don’t. So I think that adding a couple extra days a month isn’t going to deprive your child in any way while it would vastly increase your career options in the future and fulfillment in your career. I am a nurse, btw.

Post # 24
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Busy bee

I’d like to start by saying I’ve no children although we’re TTC. 

I would take the job! Why? Because it’s something you love which makes you happier. Your child is with your Darling Husband or your mum so getting lots of love from family.

Also my mum took a career break for her children which she felt was right at the time but once we grew up she said she realised she felt she lost part of herself for a while & we grew up & got busy with our lives she felt adrift. 

I say do what makes the most sense to you & will ultimately make you happy! 

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