(Closed) Extraordinarily Ballsy Friend…What the hell???

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
4653 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Well i have to tell you i have 5 bridesmaids and every single one of them assumed they were my Maid/Matron of Honor… I cant choose I have the girls im closest too part of the wedding party so im not having a Maid/Matron of Honor just 5 bridesmaids!

Post # 4
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I had a similiar situation when one friend asked/told me she was going to be my matron of honor.  I have to sisters, one who will be single and one who will be married by my wedding date so they are my maid & matron of honor.

I did care about this person and despite her rude behavior, I wanted to keep the peace.  I thanked her for being that interested in my wedding and I told her that I loved that we are close enough that she would feel ready to perform this duty.  But that I would be asking someone else (I didn’t say who at the time) to be my honor attendants.

It’s an annoying and potentially drama filled situation.  But do your best to vent on here and then be as nice as possible when you speak directly to her and the situation will likely fizzle quickly.

Post # 5
2442 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

It won’t be easy, but tell her plainly and clearly (and politely) that she is NOT your moh.  It seems that you’ve already told her but my understanding is that she isn’t getting it.  Her feelings will be hurt.  Be prepared for that.  I suggest that you decide who is going to be your moh and tell X “I’m really sorry for the misunderstanding, but Y (or SIL) is my maid of honor.  I’m taking my time to decide about BMs.”  That way it is absolutely clear that she is not the Maid/Matron of Honor and Y (or SIL) is.  

Post # 6
1066 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Is she going to be a bridesmaid at least?  maybe you can pick Future Sister-In-Law because she will be family, and then you won’t have to choose between friends.  I know you didn’t even consider X as a Maid/Matron of Honor, but it would make your decision easier with friend Y to pick Future Sister-In-Law.  Plus family is very important and she will always be part of your life as your Fi’s sister.

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