Post # 1
I feel so incredibly guilty asking our bridal party to cover all of these expenses for OUR day. What has everyone done in terms of helping people out?! I wouldnt flinch covering my own way for my friends wedding yet I hate asking people to spend on me. I am paying for 100% of bridesmaids hair/makeup/robes/jewelry/hangers and breakfast and lunch day of. We were going to pay hotel rooms for everyone but realistically its just too much. Do we pay for half of their apparel or get two rooms each night that are there if they want them to share with whoever else stays in there? my concern again is with plus ones they will get their own anyway and apparel is something they all NEED. I would send them a list with other much cheaper hotels ranging 60-100 per night within a few blocks of ours which is 140 a night. Most know others so I guess I just need to remind myself if they dont share thats on them.
Post # 2
I think you are going overboard. It sounds like you have paid for a lot of their expenses already. They can pay for their own hotel rooms. You sound like a really thoughtful person. When I was a bridesmaid ( many times) I paid for my dress, hair and accommodations and travel. I think you paid way more than most brides do. It gets too expensive. Let these people help you out and pay their own way. What you could do is block off some rooms at regular prices.
Post # 3
Thanks! I am the first of my friends to get married so its hard to know. Being I am paying so many of the girl’s costs I think we will cover half of the guy’s rentals. And then we will have two suites the night before and offer people to be able to stay there for free with us. If they chose not to/to stay with their plus one thats one them. Then they only have to pay for a hotel one night.
Post # 4
I would cover everything except the hotel. The hotel is the one place they have flexibility in terms of pricing so each girl/couple can decide how much they want to spend and find a hotel to suit. You are picking a dress for them to wear so I would pay for that.
Post # 5
If you have the money, sure, cover what you can. As a bridesmaid though I expect to pay for my dress, shoes, and travel plans (hotel and airfare). I do not expect to be forced to doing my own hair and makeup though (if the bride requires it they pay it).