(Closed) EXTREME Shift in Wedding Timeline…Can it Work? Please Help Me Sort My Thoughts

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
5544 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Do you trust your SO to do some of the planning? I think one can totally plan a wedding super fast if one wants and you are willing to work with what you have. Okay, so find a date and a place and that is a huge chunk of the work. Could you get a dress where you are and take that back with you, especially if you don’t plan on big fluffy cupcake dress anyway? That would be the biggest issue to me, depending on season there may not be a whole lot of white dresses in a department store. However if you go somewhere liek Davids Bridal you can potentially walk out of the store with a sample the day you go if you fit into a sample you like. I think a wedding can be a wedding as you make it! And if you want something simple and low key you may be able to have a private room at a resturant so minimal decorations and things like linens are needed. 

Post # 4
2748 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Yes, you can totally make this happen. So much can be done and procured via the interwebs, so that’ll help you immensely. Also +1 on having your SO take over some of the planning. Obviously he’s going to be the one pounding the pavement so to speak. Once you get a venue for the ceremony and the reception (again +1 on the restaurant idea since you’re having family only) and choose attendant(s), the biggest details left are attire and decor. If you wanted to splurge, you could get a florist to take care of that aspect and be done with it. If you wanted something even simpler and aren’t too picky about colors, you can go to a flower stand or grocery store the morning of and buy bouquets ready made. 

If you wanted to do formal invitations for your family, the fastest option is to buy an invitation kit from a store, have your SO print them out, and get them in the mail. 

Good luck!

Post # 6
2748 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My Future Sister-In-Law got married in a restaurant within the last 10years. They had the ceremony in a separate little area then moved people to the tables. Check with different restaurants as to options like that. Since it’s a morning ceremony, you may be able to do this even with a small restaurant if they don’t tend to fill up before a certain hour.

Have you thought of a B&B? Many either have a restaurant or even a separate, more private banquet area. You can get married on the grounds or in the sitting area of the main residence and then move to the restaurant/banquet space for the brunch. I’m not sure what your general budget is, but making it a brunch versus a dinner would cut costs.

Post # 7
1112 posts
Bumble bee

You guys can totally make it work. Do what works best for you – and it sounds like this might be it! Me and my Fiance are getting married when we are for some of the same reasons – saving money living together vs. apart, etc.  Our engagement will be 5 months long. And I have friends who have done it in less time!

Post # 9
9549 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@GreenEyedGal:  You can definately make it happen. Just keep it simple. The first thing I would think about is people. Are there people you absoluetly have to have at the wedding? Can they be there? As long as that can happen everything else is possible.

My dad and stepmom got married with just us kids there in an empty church and it was fine. No processional or pomp and circumstance, but a lovely ceremony. If you wan to walk down the aisle then do it. If not, I’d skip it. And have your guy do all the location scouting.

Honestly, get one of those ridiculous giant lists from The Knot or somewhere of the timeline and everything you need to do and just start crossing off stuff you don’t need/want (I get great joy from crossing things off lists…). Then when you get down to what you do want, find ways to get it done. And by no means get sucked into thinking you need fruffy extra stuff that isn’t important. The important part is the marrying part. Not the decorations!

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