(Closed) Extremely frustrated….(vent)

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m very sorry that they are all bailing out. I know it’s not really a requirement to attend, but it’s hard not have expectations of your friends when you were there for them during their main events. Did they give you a reason at least?

Post # 4
3830 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

honestly, alot of women dont like showers.  I am one of them. Dont take it personally. 

Post # 5
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

I’m sorry you’re hurt – it never feels good for people to skip a party to which you’ve invited them. But like PP said, some women aren’t fans, and these are “childhood friends.” If you’re not that close, it’s pretty understandable.

Post # 6
2445 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Damn, that’s pretty shady of your friend to “wait to say no”.. I am of the opinion that it’s always best to be straightforward and honest.

All I can say is, you can’t control anyone’s actions, only how you react to them. So try not to focus so much on who isn’t coming, but the people who are. You’ll have a great time!

Post # 7
857 posts
Busy bee

It is a crappy feeling, but just because they arent coming doesnt mean they care less about you. like said above, some people dont like these kinds of things. Personally i think those feelings should be put aside, but others dont see that. Just be thankfl for the ones that attended your shower, and be thankful for that. It is such a waste of energy being upset over things you can not control. 

Post # 8
5161 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

julesbeeb:  Your aunt should start contacting these friends. On my shower RSVP date, my sister only got 4/25 RSVPs. And 19/25 people showed up! 

Post # 9
327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

julesbeeb:  my shower was this past Sunday. We invited 49 people only 15 showed up. Apparently my sister has to track everyone down and some of them even RSVPd yes and just didnt show. When I got there and realized how few people showed I was hurt. I don’t blame you for being upset. Maybe tell them how you feel? 

Post # 10
2347 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

julesbeeb:  I don’t know, I’m in the boat of “do unto others…”  No, I don’t like showers either, especially when I was going through a period when ALL my friends were getting engaged and married and I was still on the waiting list.  Some of these events were literally painstaking b/c I had friends I hadn’t seen in years asking me when he was going to “pull the trigger”.  But, it WASN’T ABOUT ME.  A thoughtful, mature adult should be able to put their personal feelings aside to celebrate their friend, especially since you did it for them.

It’s shitty.  It’s just shitty.   

Post # 13
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I don’t know what is happening at mine. But, it really sucks that they have decided not to support you… I would have told you to your face why I could not attend, and offered to take you out or something. Try not to focus on them and have a good time anyway. Weddings can really bring out the ugly in people…

Post # 14
8729 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

julesbeeb:  Wait so they still have another week to RSVP and you are bitching them out for being ungrateful bad friends. Sorry but you are being a crazy bridezilla. I can never really understand posts liek this. You give people a date to RSVp so they have until that date to RSVP. 

Life is also not tit for tat. you will be a lot happier in life if you realise this.

Post # 15
564 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

It’s really difficult and it sucks, but we have to realize that we don’t always get back all the effort we put into friendships – or any relationships for that matter. It’s definitely tough!

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