(Closed) Extremely Rude Day of Wedding Coordinator, Advice?

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: What Should I Do?
    Call her and try to work with her : (2 votes)
    5 %
    Call her to fire her : (37 votes)
    95 %
  • Post # 3
    7561 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Since she can’t come to the rehersal dinner I would tell her that her services are no longer needed. She’s not fulfilling her side of the contract so I don’t see why you would be required to fulfill yours. I would expect to lose my first deposit though. 

    Post # 4
    709 posts
    Busy bee

    Oh no, sorry you’re going through this 🙁 

    What where the reasons you chose her? 

    Maybe you can write them down, e-mail them to her and also say what you want / paid for… 

    “I chose you because your references show, you made beautiful weddings come through, because you can take a lot of stress from the bride on the day off etc. 

    thus I paid amount X for you to help me insure this will happen. 

    I would kindly request that you take care of x,y and z and ensure that x,y and z….” 

    Best of luck!


    Post # 5
    1638 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @seiyaodango:  You *might* want to consult a lawyer about this. If she does not fulfil her contract, are you still liable to pay her??


    Post # 6
    1294 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @AlwaysSunny:  agreed.  There is no way that witch would have a CHANCE of ruining my special day. FIRED!


    Post # 7
    2240 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Agreed! No one is rude to you about YOUR wedding day especially when you’re PAYING her! She’s not doing her job in a professional, courteous manner, and she is not fullfilling her end of the contract. That means your contract is voided. I’d be firing her so fast her head would spin! I dont have to pay people to be rude to me, I can get that for free at the grocery store 🙂

    Post # 8
    924 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Be careful here.

    You said “rehearsal is included” but that she can’t attend the rehearsal dinner. You need to check the wording of your contract to see if her attendance at the dinner is required to fulfill the obligations of the contract. In my mind, I would fully expect my DOC to attend the rehearsal but not the rehearsal dinner. THa being said, I wouldn’t want to work with her either, but you may have a difficult time canceling this late in the contract without being liable for the entire amount (unless the wording on the rehearsal dinner is in your favor). 

    Post # 9
    1849 posts
    Buzzing bee

    If you can, just pay her off, say good riddance (I don’t think you have a chance of getting any money back or not paying the balance at this date).  See if you can hire someone else quickly and move ahead.  She sounds like a trainwreck waiting to happen at your wedding.

    Post # 10
    1078 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @seiyaodango:  i say fire her you don’t need anyone you don’t love giving you any stress on your day … its like the only ppl aloud to stress you sould be family and even they should be behaving that day lol 

    Post # 11
    1164 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @seiyaodango:  sounds like it won’t change anything. You’re too far in to get any money back, but you can definitely save yourself the stress and headache of having her there, and the fear of her being rude the day of your wedding to your vendors and guests. Cut your losses and fire her immediately. Good luck!

    Post # 12
    2 posts
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I would definitely call and fire her. I am a Day of Coordinator and would never think of doing the things you have described. Also, if rehearsal is part of the contract then she should not hold you liable for anything as she didn’t hold to her contract/commitment. Just my advice and how I run my business!


    Post # 13
    910 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I had a lot of problems with the venue coordinator during my wedding planning.  I thought she was rude and I feel that she thought I was an unintelligent bridezilla.  Let’s just say that the Darling Husband has to write most of the emails to her……

    What I came to realize is that “wedding coordinators” or “day of coordinators”,  come up with a system that works for them.  When a bride/groom has an idea that is outside “the box” all hell seems to break loose.  I would stick to your guns and do what works for you (as long as the wedding will go smoothly and your ideas are sound, logical and practical).   

    You are paying for a service and your wedding coordinator should be working with you not against you…….

    Post # 14
    1129 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @seiyaodango:  SUE HER! *ejem* I mean, call a lawyer for advice. 🙂

    Post # 15
    255 posts
    Helper bee

    I am a wedding planner and I am telling you to fire her ass! A planner/coordinator is there to assist you and the tasks have all been carefully laid out in the contract along with the appropriate or preferred form of communication, if she can no longer abide by the contract then there is no reason to have her at your wedding.  I’m so sorry and I’m utterly mortified that this has happened to you. Fire her! Use the timeline that she has created and ask a VERY organized friend to serve as your day of organizer for the day. 


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