(Closed) Extremely upset at the invitation lady… what do you think?

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
49 posts
  • Wedding: June 2010

Did you have a contract? or What was the money towards? 

Post # 4
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

If you didn’t pay for an “exclusive” design, she is within her rights to use it for other brides.

If you are unhappy with her, you should ask for your money back and go with someone else. If you can deal with her using the design for other brides, then I would still go with her.

Personally, unless you have paid for the “exclusive” design or have it in a contract that she wouldn’t use the design prior to your wedding, I think you are overreacting.

Post # 7
1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think you should still work with her since you’ve paid some money.  But since it’s not an original design anymore, tell her you won’t pay the “exclusive” design price.  Since the other bride gets your invite, you shouldn’t have to pay extra for the design.

Also, can you meet in person? I think that you’d get a lot more commitment from her if you talked in person.  

Post # 8
2532 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Honestly I dont think this is that big of a deal. It’s not like you know the other bride personally and some of your friends/family would get the same inivtation from 2 people. I think you just need to let this go. Honestly having your own *exclusive* design for invitations sounds like something a Hollywood starlette would want and do you really think that 10 years down the line that is really going to matter? If you still LOVE the design she created for you then just go with the flow and use it anyways!

Post # 9
190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t want to jump in and take a side without knowing more, but the “design fee” might just cover the time it takes for her to lay in  and fit your personal text with your names & wedding details into the design. Especially if there is no contract language that gives you exclusive rights to the design itself.

Post # 10
406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I totally understand your chagrin.  First I would say that the designer is being lazy and unethical.  Secondly, I would say that there is not much you can do but protest in the ways that we women protest.  That type of protest is very powerful… if done correctly.  I would say, as an older woman- let this be an object lesson to you- we will custom design our own invitations for my daughter’s wedding now that I have done shower invitations from scratch.  I have a lovely printer- and a creative imagination.  There are gifted college students who can handpaint on craft paper.  Why pay a charlatan?  It makes me angry for you, but you sound as though you have a larger budget.  Still, people should not take advantage.  Best wishes-

Post # 12
660 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Gionnetto- I sounds like you’ve made your decision already. You don’t want to work with someone who is unethical and sleazy and clearly this is the behavior she is portraying. Either try to get your money back or since it seems you can afford it just take the loss and find someone else who can provide you with what it is you are seeking. Perhaps get it into a contract with the next vendor what you expect so you don’t have any surprises. Depending on the number of invitations, spending $1,000 isn’t that much so perhaps she isn’t high end enough for you and you should seek a more “exclusive” designer. Good luck on that one!

Post # 13
491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I TOTALLY understand your wish to have what you paid for.  Having someone accuse you of acting like a “Hollywood Starlet” is essentially accusing you of being a brat and that’s not fair.  You want unique and one of a kind invitations, so you should have them!  I am of the same thought and I am a designer as well so I designed my own.  It’s a lot more work lol, but fun and worth it in my opinion.  If you’re a designer maybe take on the task yourself?  I fully enjoyed it!  This “famous” designer you hired clearly has had her ego inflated a bit, so put her behind you and do what feels best for you.  I hope you get it worked out 🙂

Post # 14
188 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Wait – if you have had all of your correspondence over the phone or online – how does she know that you are a beautiful woman?

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