(Closed) Extrovert vs. Introvert

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I’m definitely an extrovert.  My husband is more introverted.  I think it’s a good combination- he mellows me out and I bring him out of his shell.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I’m an introvert, he’s an extrovert. He thinks I’m antisocial and I think he’s nuts for wanting to be around so many strange people. So he’s the one who keeps trying to drag me places. I’m content in my little box with books, but hey, someone has to balance me out!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We’re both introverts, and, like you Mrs. Bee, I think it’s great that we like to do the same things and are comfortable staying home, but we do tend to avoid social opportunities.  We’ve talked about ways to ease into being more social, but so far we haven’t made much progress!

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m the extrovert and he is the introvert, for sure.  I work with poeple every day, and he sits in front of a computer and programs.  It works out ok though, when I need social time with my girls, he is happy to let me go out.  We have a good system  🙂

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

i don’t think either of us can be classified as one or the other. we both enjoy staying home and going out. i will say that i might be slightly more introverted than he is.   

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I’m the extrovert for sure! He’s an introvert. We mesh well though , as much as i love to be around people , I like chilling at home too. He says I’ve given him more confidence (too sweet!) and he has helped keep me more grounded. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Actually, it’s a misconception that introversion means liking staying in and extroversion going out (though of course there is a correlation there). The terms actually refer to how being with other people affects you. An introvert gets tired out by being with lots of others and recharges best through time alone, whereas an extrovert gets energized by other people and can feel drained if they are alone too long or too much.

I used to be very shy and never go out, and I thought that meant I was an introvert. But I love being around people (not huge groups, but a small group of friends). When I used to live with a bunch of introverted housemates, I would spend a lot of time alone because of my work and school schedule. When my housemates would get home they would want to go be alone but I would beg them to just sit in the same room as me (not even talking!) because I felt so much better to have them nearby. That clued me into that I am actually an extrovert with a case of shyness. I love to have people with me, but sometimes it is hard to get comfortable. 

My husband is very extroverted. Strangely, I am the one who has more friends that I go out with individually. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m more of the introvert and he’s the extrovert.  I like it because we take turns getting each other out of our comfort zones…it keeps things interesting.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

Interesting….I am for the most part an extrovert while my bf is for the most part an introvert. That being said, I am an only child and grew up in a quiet home so I do have "introverted" moments I guess you could call them, where I enjoy nothing more than lounging alone on the couch or in bed with a good book and total solitude. He is one of 10 children so grew up in a less-than-peaceful home so he relishes his quiet time now that he is out of his childhood home which works out perfectly for both of us. But we do both have times where we enjoy being out in a lively group whether at our local fave bar or at a family get-together.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We’re both introverts; we both genuinely enjoy being alone.  Of course we also enjoy going out and being with people sometimes, but I do a little more of that than he does. 

He doesn’t really have many friends, but he is totally, completely comfortable with that.  He says it’s just because he hasn’t put a lot of effort into keeping in touch with people as they’ve come and gone from his life. He also says that I’m much better at striking up conversation with strangers (at parties, etc) than he is. 

While I have more friends than he does, I’ve grown up always feeling like I was in one-sided friendships, where I was always the one who called the other person and said, "Hey, want to…?"  As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that it shouldn’t be that way, and now I tend to only want to do things when other people do the asking.  I sort of live by the motto "The only people you need in your life are the ones who need you in theirs."  And unfortunately most of the people who want me in their lives live far away. 

I sometimes think he’s an introvert by choice, and I’m one by birth. I’ve always been the way I am, but I think about it all the time and wish I could change it, whereas he just accepts it. I can be a very social person, but I rarely feel accepted or liked by people, and that bothers me.  It doesn’t bother my Fiance.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

He’s the extrovert and I’m the introvert. It has caused for many a great conversation, but requires some creativity at times to make sure that both of us are heard and feel appreciated.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We’re both on the shy side. I’m slighly more outgoing than him, but not much.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I just took the Myers Briggs and scored as ISTJ

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