- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012 - Salvage One, Chicago
Did anyone else have this reaction at their wedding? I certainly did not cry. First of all, I love my Dad, I’m the only girl, the baby, and we talk a lot, argue politics, etc., but (and I mean this in the most loving way) he comes off like a pompus ass sometimes. There’s more to his character, but I don’t want to get into everything. He told me he was googling wedding toasts on the internet for ideas on what to say, he tries to be overly eloquent- he has a great speaking voice, but he just like, overdoes it and it comes off forced, canned, devoid of sentiment- at least that’s how it seemed to me.
And he called me his princess in both speeches! He has never called me a princess ever, nor do I feel like I was ever treated like one. A tomboy, a great student, like an independent thinker, an athlete, but never like a ‘princess’. I’m sure I’m spoiled, but it was never ‘Anything for my little girl! diamonds and purses everywhere!”- type of thing. I’m probably a little mad about the clicheness of the ‘princess’ analogy and the stereotypes it implies, too.
Anyway, so what I was hoping for as a sentimental, more genuine, heartfelt speech from my dad became this performance of his that did nothing for me. And when I saw him most recently he was talking about how much he liked what he said and it took all I had to not tell him how I really felt. I would never hurt his feelings like that, but he’s looking for me to praise him, and I just can’t bring myself to do it.
Am I alone here?