(Closed) F is drifting away. Should we proceed with the wedding?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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5907 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

Maybe he just doesn’t like wedding planning? Some people aren’t into it and don’t get excited by the details. Can you plan fun things/dates without taking non stop about the wedding? 

Post # 3
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948 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

If he asked you to postpone the date, that should be really all the indication you need to pause your planning and take a deeper look at what is going on. Even if your parents want you to get married this year, hopefully they wouldn’t push for that knowing that there are issues the two of you need to work out.

Post # 4
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400 posts
Helper bee

My Fiance can be the same way. He loves me and is happy to be with me but he’s not into the wedding planning. He doesn’t really have an opinion on much of the options other than the most significant ones, and even then I could probably just go forward without asking. He’s said that he will be excited when we get there and it’s actually happening but that he’s just going with the flow until then.

He’s also not a very outwardly emotional person, which can be difficult if your Fiance is like that and you are more like me…more emotional with the person you are with. In the end you have to either trust that he means what he says when he says he loves you and is happy, and that he’s just not overly excited about the process of getting married, or decide he’s not the one for you.

You mentioned an “engagement ceremony” which leads me to think you’re part of a culture that has very big traditions surrounding weddings (the only time I’ve heard of this is a Muslim friend of mine who had a traditional engagement ceremony and it was HUGE, with all the family from both sides). Maybe the scale of the preparations and celebrations to come are a little intimidating to him? He might be happy about the prospect of marriage but not the actual process of GETTING married.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

” If he asked you to postpone the date, that should be really all the indication you need to pause your planning and take a deeper look at what is going on.”

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