(Closed) Face the music… and the crowd!

posted 10 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 4
121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Pier Sixty, Chelsea Piers

I wouldn’t mind sitting on the ground at all. It’s your ceremony! It should reflect your preferences… and your guests are your friends… and shouldn’t complain. 🙂

We’re having a secular ceremony as well and it was actually our officiants suggestion that we face the audience because, I quote "They didn’t come to watch your behinds!" Haha. I think it’s a great way of including your guests. 

Post # 5
117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2008 - United Methodist Cathedral & historic downtown hotel in Cleveland

Something else you might consider, instead of people sitting on the ground (if women are wearing shorter skirts or dresses, they may not want to), is having them all stand up- perhaps encircling you?  You would want some chairs, of course, for those unable to stand, but I’ve heard that it works really well. 

Post # 6
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

I think you may find some guests not too happy about sitting on throw pillows and such, especially if some of the female attire is not so "floor sitting friendly".  (You know, a bit too short…a bit too tight.)  But if you mention it to the guests through word of mouth so they’ll be prepared to do so, I think it wouldn’t be a bad idea at all…just MHO.

Post # 7
1246 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

The only wedding I’ve been to like this was actually a Catholic one. Instead of kneeling in front of the altar, the priest had the couple sit on chairs on the stage when they weren’t actively participating in anything. It was very cool; I loved being able to see them, and I know they enjoyed getting to see their friends and family.

Post # 8
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2007 - Rosary Chapel & Monterey Marriott, Monterey, CA

We faced the congregation (either while standing or sitting in chairs during the liturgy) throughout the whole ceremony. It was neat… difficult to not stare into the crowd… but people really liked it. It felt like everyone was really there with us, rather than it being a private moment, which I thought reflected our wedding quite well.

Post # 9
179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I just have visions of the disaster of my 82 year old grandmother trying to get to the floor. Or collapsing if forced to stand for 10 minutes (which would happen) If you gave people the choice of sitting or standing, and offered chairs for the elderly I think it would work out.  For a 15 minute ceremony, as a guest I would probably rather stand than flash you cousin’s uncle. 

But you should know the physical abilities of your major players – if you have a lot of younger guests it might work out fine.

Post # 11
230 posts
Helper bee

I would also say, go for it! But personally, even though I am young and healthy, I would probably still opt for a chair (after the elderly or otherwise in need of a chair were all taken care of, of course). Mostly because of the attire issue. However, if I knew about it in advance, I might choose a longer dress/skirt and then I’d be happy to sit on the floor – I do at home all the time anyway!

I’d also like to hear other’s thoughts on where the officiant would stand if the couple were facing the audience? If he/she stands in the aisle, wouldn’t that block the view of many of the guests? And if he/she stands behind, would that be weird, as he would be speaking to the back of your heads and you in to the audience? (I have a thing with making eye contact when speaking with someone!). Is a compromise to just do the whole thing facing your Fiance, so both the officiant and your guests see you from the side?

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