Post # 1
I have another gripe about Facebook. I like the site, I’ve had an account for a long time and it’s a great way to communicate with friends that live far away. However, I have a problem about people putting my wedding pictures up on Facebook. I don’t want the world to see them and especially the people I am not inviting. Is there a simple solution to this? Do I just tell people to pass the word on that I don’t want my pictures to be posted on Facebook?
I will have little cards for guests that say they can upload their pictures onto our gallery (probably Flickr or something of that sort). Should I write on that card that I don’t want pictures on other social-networking sites?
Post # 3
I think that’s a fair way to do it. I mean, if it is pictures of themselves that is one thing, but if it is photos of the ceremony and the bride and everything else, I don’t see why you can’t make the request.
Post # 4
I think that is a fair way as well. However, keep in mind that some may still find their way on to facebook and such!
Post # 5
I wish I would have thought of this before our wedding! I wasn’t able to invite all of my coworkers, but I did invite a few (the ones I hang out with outside of work). Everyone did a great job of not talking about the wedding at work, but after the wedding one of them posted pictures on FB. (Doh!) Anyway, I wouldn’t have minded except that a few folks from work who weren’t invited saw the images. It didn’t cause any serious trouble; it just made me feel guilty/awkward at work for a while. Good luck with your cards – I think that sounds like a great idea!
Post # 6
Check out this thread. Yes, use the other side of the card to say that you don’t want any pictures in any social network. That is why you put up the Flickr gallery.
Post # 7
I hear you. Just a warning though, I asked my friends and bridal party repeatedly to please not post our wedding pics of facebook and they still ended up all over the place. I also sent out an email with a link to our shutterfly site and invited people to share their pics there. I still have random people I barely know, parents of people I went to high school with, people my husband works with, etc. telling me they’ve seen all the pics on FB. I just let it go. People who use FB like that don’t understand (and I guess don’t care about) your concerns. I figure, at least you’ll probably look great in the pics!
Post # 8
I guess I’m in the minority. Sure you can request it of your guests if you want. But I’m just kind of of the opinion, that while it is your day, they celebrated with you, and may want to share that with people. For us, we know a LOT of people from our church (which is all up and down the west coast). We don’t plan on inviting everyone, and they don’t expect us to. That doesn’t mean that I don’t want to share our day them, and let them see our celebration. That’s why I’m 100% fine with people uploading their pictures of our day to Facebook and such. But that’s what is right for us, and may not be for everybody 🙂
Post # 9
To tell people to post their pics to Flickr is ok, but to tell them to NOT post them anywhere is kind of rude IMO. They are just sharing the joy and excitement of your wedding day. And realistically, I don’t recall any of my FB friends posting more than 10-15 pics of someone else’s (non-family members) wedding on their FB, most times it’s less than that. It will probably just be pics of them with you and then a couple of the reception or ceremony. If the concern is that other people who you are not inviting will find out that these people were there, that goes with having to cut the guest list down! The non-invited people will figure out eventually that they were not invited to the wedding, it’s no big deal.
Post # 10
I have to say that I’m sorta with MandaLynn17 on this one… I just don’t mind I guess. If they tag something that I don’t like, I can untag that, but otherwise I don’t really have any control. I can understand the aversion, though.
Post # 11
I agree that you may go through all the trouble to say no facebook but they will more than likely get put up at some point by someone…however, i do think it is very kind of you to be sensitive to those who were not invited (but I’m sure you had your reasons to not invite them the ones who understand would probably still like to see how beautiful you looked!) i also do love the idea of a flickr site regardless!
Post # 12
Also remember that you can control your privacy settings on FB. You can create custom friends list that can only see certain parts of your profile and certain photo albums. You can also say specify that only your friends can see photos tagged of you. The argument that comes up here is that if you try to restrict who can see what, do they need to be your FB "friend" at all? I know I have way to many FB friends and I go through and "purge" every once in while!
Post # 13
I thought of the same issue and I’ll be reading up on the other thread. I’m going to try my best to spread the word about not posting pics on Facebook, but I know some will eventually find their way on there. I trust that our friends will understand and oblige but I can’t say the same for our guests that we don’t know well. We’ll just have to deal with it. Even though we can set privacy settings, it doesn’t prevent someone from seeing the photos if they tried hard enough.
Post # 14
I havent read through all the posts on here, but I believe if you are "tagged" in a photo, you have the option to delete it. Otherwise you can ask the people to politely take your pictures down, but it might cause hurt feelings. I would look at it as a compliment, that they enjoyed your wedding so much they couldnt wait to post pictures.
Post # 15
You can untag yourself from the photo, but I believe the only person who can delete the photo is the person who posted it.
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2018 - The Desmond Hotel in Malvern, PA
This solution might take a little bit of time, but it could save you some grief later on….
- In your Facebook account, click on "settings" at the top right
- Click on "profile"
- Under "Photos tagged of you," you can select "Customize"
- From there, you can either choose "some friends" to choose only specific friends who can see photos tagged of you, or go to your "Networks" if you have already divided your friends into groups on Facebook. (Or, you can create networks now to use later as well)
If you want to post your own photos from your wedding eventually but still only want certain people to see, you can be just as specific about sharing certain albums in your Facebook account with only certain networks. You can use the same method for personal information, wall posts, etc. if there are people you’d rather not know your every move but you feel bad deleting them as a friend 🙂