Post # 1
I think I just need someone to confirm what I already know!
Deactivated FB a year ago and wasn’t using it. Then, around our wedding, I reactivated it to see wedding photos.
In my last job (sales) I was very cautious not to be friends with customers and clients so didn’t accept quite a few requests.
I now work for the church. In part I need to be everyone’s friend. So when a woman from church came up to me and said “I added you the first time I met you but you didn’t accept my request” I didn’t really think about and accepted. I’m concerned that I may have crossed my own professional line. I believe she’s a vulnerable person and she seeks me out at services / church activities. I think she may believe we are friends (not unreasonable since I accepted her friend request). She hasn’t done anything abnormal (she has liked and commented on a few recent posts).
Am I overreacting? If not, is there a way I can sneekily remove her? My actual friends are quite glad I’m back on but I’m not against deactivating or deleting it altogether.
Post # 2
I don’t think there’s a way you can “sneakily” remove her without her noticing. If she’s been frequently liking and commenting your posts and one day you disappeared from her list, she would definitely know. Maybe you could limit your posts to certain friends only? But that would be kinda risky because what if your other church friends/colleagues show her one of your posts and it was a post she couldn’t see? I would perhaps create a friend list for all of the church people and limit what they can see from your profile if you’re concerned.
Are you afraid that she thinks you guys are friends when you really aren’t?
Post # 3
Oh the joys of social media… sounds like she’d definitely notice if you removed her. What if you switched platforms and got an instagram instead? It’s so much less personal but people can still feel like they’re connecting with you? Then when people ask you can just tell them facebook wasn’t your thing but you made an insta instead! Plus you may enjoy it more. It’s a lot more interest-based and less drama.
Post # 4
I would create a ‘work account’. I understand that in this new workplace you might need to appear social and open to everyone, but really you don’t want to.
On your ‘real account’ change your name to a nickname that you know and that you can let friends know is you. Then create a new account in your name that you give out to parishoners / work people who might want it. You can also use that account to promote any church activities etc. Keep the personal stuff on the other account.
As for the woman who is already friends – tell her you’ve had to close your account, but add her to the new one.
Post # 5
Maybe have a separate Facebook account just for clients etc… you can still be friends but keep your personal life separate.
Post # 6
Rather than creating a separate account, I would create a list of work people and restrict what they can see.
Post # 7
I have been facebookless for 6 months and am strongly in favor of the thought of deactivating again. It’s more trouble than it’s worth, most definitely.
Post # 8
Use lists to separate groups of people on FB. I had one friend who kept trying to create separate work and personal accounts, and they repeatedly got deleted because it’s a violation of FB’s TOS.
I also think you’re overreacting. You said that your job requires you to be everyone’s friend. So be friendly to this person without being BFFs; you said yourself that she hasn’t actually done anything abnormal.
Post # 9
I think you can control who sees what you post, so maybe just take advantage of privacy settings? It’s likely she’ll notice if you unfriend her.
I don’t use FB much, I rarely post anything so I’ll accept friend requests from coworkers but I have made it so if someone tags me in something it doesn’t show up on my timeline, I have to approve the tag first.
So, definitely utilize your privacy settings.