Post # 1
I want to inquire to my FB friends for some stuff to use in my wedding (old books I can cut up for paper roses, brooches to borrow for my brooch bouquet) but I don’t plan to invite everyone to the wedding. Should I or should I not blast FB looking for items from people who might not get invited to the wedding? (We’re keeping it small for financial reasons)
Post # 3
@Omgbunnies: I think you should set up a separate friend list of only those invited to the wedding for this.
One of my acquaintances posted wedding-related stuff non-stop last year. She had a smallish wedding and I know a few people got upset and felt a little put out that they had to read and hear about her wedding seemingly every day but knew they weren’t invited.
Heck, I even saw one person reply to one of her posts: So, am I invited to this wedding? A few other people chimed in too. That post turned into the facebook Titanic. Never a good thing.
Post # 4
Better safe than sorry – you never know who will assume they are invited, especially if they get together with you to give you something wedding-related. And I know people think “oh I haven’t seen her in X number of years, there’s no way she’d think Im inviting her” – but – theres allllllwaaaaays one of those 😉
Post # 5
@JaneyDcat: yikes! thanks for the seperate list idea!
Post # 6
@Omgbunnies: I agree with JaneyDcat … You should probably not ask anyone not invited to the wedding for these types of things.
If it were me, I would set up a private message and include only those who will be invited. I know if a friend of mine asked me for wedding help and then left me out, I’d be pretty bummed.
Post # 7
@angelinthesnowxo: oh!! Private message is even better. I’m so not FB literate, thats why I need the bee for help like this lol
Post # 8
@Omgbunnies: Haha it’s okay. I don’t really use Facebook that much anymore, but I’ve always been a fan of private messaging on that site. Sometimes you just want to send someone something without everyone on their friends list (and possibly your friends list as well!) seeing it!
Post # 9
Try freecycle in your local area. Don’t blast it on Facebook.