(Closed) Facebook etiquette rant

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
760 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

jmLL:  Yes it is very off putting.

However, I don’t side eye people posting pictures AFTER their wedding.  I quite like looking at them 🙂

Post # 3
223 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

That is rude, what the hell is wrong with strappy dresses?


Post # 4
1854 posts
Buzzing bee

I think after the wedding picture posts are fine, but if there are a lot of people on your FB who didn’t get invites staying away from ‘thanks to everyone who came and celebrated our day’ posts are a bit rude. And all those before wedding posts are VERY rude in my opinion!

Post # 5
5268 posts
Bee Keeper

jmLL:  What do you expect from facebook? Sounds like pretty standard behavior for facebook and twitter. In fact, I would actually appreciate these comments. It would help me to decide to not RSVP and save myself some time and money so I don’t have to “put in some effort.” 

Post # 6
45659 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sounds like this woman was absent the day they taught manners- all of the days!

The trouble with Facebook is that it allows people to forget that there are filters that they should be using:

  • don’t talk about the wedding in front of those who are not invited
  • don’t embarass someone (eg the one who didn’t indicate their entree choice) in front of others
  • don’t talk down to your guests by presuming they don’t know how to dress themselves
Post # 7
4416 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

“Thanks to everyone who came” posts are the ones that make me squick the hardest. They make me feel this twinge of guilt, as if the reason I didn’t go to someone’s shower or bachelorette or wedding was because I was too lazy and couldn’t be bothered to put on pants and buy a gift. But then I remember that oh yeah, the reason I didn’t go was because I wasn’t invited. Wamp womp.

Post # 9
61 posts
Worker bee

There was one bride that asked ‘what sort of songs would you want to hear played at our reception?’

Me: “I wouldn’t care- I wasn’t invited” She deleted me 10 mins later- since that was when I refreshed the page to see if anyone else commented back.

Her loss.

Post # 10
402 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

My cousin has been doing a lot of that!  If someone does something to help her out with her reception (which has been a LOT) she goes straight to Facebook to gush and thank everyone.  I made her a bouquet, and she posted the thank you on FB, and it made me a little uncomfortable.  I believe that should be between us.

Post # 12
4416 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

jmLL:  I think we’ve all done it at some point! I’m sure I’m guilty of doing a “thanks to everyone who came out for our going away party” type of post. Just need to be wary in the future of how we word stuff like that. Like maybe go with “had a great time at our going away party last night!” or something to that effect. We can all work on it together 🙂

Post # 13
8763 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I’m FB friends with someone who had a wedding of around 100 people, about 30 plus relatives from each side and 30 plus friends.  I was a former  co-worker and not expecting to be invited at all,  but when she posted a big FB thank you to everyone who came along with hundreds of  photos, I thought that was pretty crass. 


Post # 14
61 posts
Worker bee


You can for sure be happy for someone getting married! I was tired of the daily posts she kept putting up. She had a wedding of 35 people and 476 friends on FB… did she really think people cared about what she played?

One mutual friend thought it was hilarious and wished she had the guts to say something like that. I guess after that she didn’t post so much on her wedding preperations- so I guess I did a favor to some peeps!

She caught me in a moment of weakness with no third cup of coffee in the morning…. I was just tired of it.

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