(Closed) Facebook etiquette rant

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 31
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72 posts
Worker bee

Yeah, that is super tacky.

Also… what’s wrong with strappy dresses?  

Post # 32
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2266 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Ugh. the combination of Facebook and weddings is just a recipe for disaster.

I don’t mind the occasional post about choosing a date or your dress. I’m cool with those. It’s the gratuitous posts about every wedding detail that drives me nuts.

I have one acquantance who has posted everything….from her website to her floral decision. Also, her wedding is in a public space so anyone could theoretically walk by and go. She actually mentioned this. 

I do love wedding photos, however. I get mad when people don’t post them fast enough! I love looking at wedding photos.

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

I have a friend who is posting every detail on FB – it is making me kind of go “eek” because it reminds me of another girl I used to be friends with who posted her Save the Date on FB as a status for all to see.  No one knew if they were invited or not. It was just not comfortable all around for anyone.

I actually created a custom list for my own FB so that if I wanted to make a post about something then only those invited to the wedding could see. Same with Pinterest – private boards that I added certain people to.  I don’t want to bombard people with wedding stuff. I have also tried to keep pretty quiet about wedding plans with people who are outside the wedding party because I don’t want anyone to feel badly. I actually cringed when others made mention of my bachelorette and bridal shower, as well as posted photos because I didn’t want anyone to feel badly about not being invited. Then I remembered that I didn’t post it. I will be asking people to post photos they take at our wedding on an app – just to keep the photos off of FB and so that people who aren’t friends with other guests on FB can check out all the photos.

Post # 34
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Honey Beekeeper

It’s fine to post a few photos of bride and groom.  And it’s OK to share privately if someone not invited to the wedding knows you got married and asks to see some of your photos.

 But it’s quite another to post dozens of wedding reception pics for the “benefit” of those  who were not invited and who, hint, hint,  did not ask to see them.   

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

As a younger bride of 21 I don’t see the huge deal with a lot of these. I mean the dress comment and chicken and beef ones are clearly rude but the rest are pretty meh. I mean my mum MoB and myself have done many wedding related posts. ‘Yay she got a dress’ ‘I have a venue thanks dad for helping with the deposit’ etc. I don’t see an issue. Everyone I care about is invited. This is a small wedding and I’m antioxidant social.

Anyone on my Facebook who isn’t invited are either friends from over seas, people from high school I haven’t gotten around to deleting and coworkers. Personally I don’t give a damn if people think I’m rude. I get tonnes of people asking for wedding details who are clearly not invited such as coworkers. People I have on Facebook will either be happy for me whether invited or not, or should delete me if they have any issues.

I also intend to post pics after the big day.

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee

I don’t think that’s a breach of “Facebook etiquette”. I actually don’t think there is much in terms of etiquette other than the rules that Facebook has. 

To me the vast majority of these issues could be solved if people would just use the features that Facebook provides, understand that Facebook is not a formal place and, therefore, isn’t subject to much etiquette, and realize that not everyone gets invited to everything. 

If you’re sick of wedding posts or are appalled by what you consider to be awful etiquette, unfollow the person or hide them from your feed. If you can’t stand seeing lots of pictures of an event you weren’t invited to, unfollow the person and don’t look at the albums. There is the ability to be completely oblivious to someone’s posts on Facebook and still be their friend; use that function. If you think Facebook is a place where someone needs to be super concerned about your feelings when they’re posting pictures about their life events, disabuse yourself of that notion ASAP.

Facebook should not be such a complicated, etiquette filled place. It’s not that serious. 

Post # 37
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1111 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

On facebook you can limit the audience of your posts… so this person could still post it and take the time to pick and choose who sees it. After I got married, we moved across the country, so by the time I got my photos back, I was long gone. Since I couldn’t sit down and flip through photos with my friends I posted all of them to facebook so people could peruse them, and then after a couple of weeks I hid all of the photos and only made them visible to my ‘close’ friends (which is a small group of people). 

I am also guilty of the “thanks for coming” status… It’s not something that bothers me, and I still see it quite often. But I agree with a PP who said that Facebook is a stage to insult or alienate people. 

I also agree with the PP that it’s Facebook and it shouldn’t be that serious, but it’s a social construct now, and as time passes we’re all adjusting to how/what we post and share. 

Post # 38
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Sugar bee

I have three words:

ignorant

rude

immature

Post # 39
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1678 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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jmLL:  ummm this is awful. I just deactivated Facebook about a week ago and I’ve never felt more free! People are crazy. And rude!

Post # 40
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Oh my just looked on FB and one of my friends posted something along the lines casue I don’t want to copy and paste verbatum,

“if you’re going to the wedding book you hotel cause it’s only available until today”

Ugh seriously?  This girl has 700 friends on FB!  The site actually makes it easy to share with only certain people, I really can’t comprehend why anyone would do it like this.  I couldn’t care less, not someone I’d think I was getting an invite from but geez, I’m sure one of her 700 friends who didn’t did think that.

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