(Closed) Facebook Etiquette…What’s your stance?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I tend to keep my private life private, esp on FB.  I share very little no matter what, in fact, most of the Bees know more about my private life than old friends do.  I have alot of colleagues, old friends, and my whole family on FB so I didn’t share anything about my wedding on FB as most of them were not invited.  I wanted to avoid hurt feelings and the ever present “I am getting an invitation right?” issue. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’ll admit that I regularly go through and delete people off of my fb, especially people that I know longer talk to.  I use it a lot more now to share photos and wedding planning with my family and friends as I live 4 hours away from most of them.  My rule for fb is that if you are on my list, you are most likely getting invited to my wedding next year.  I have under a hundered people on my list now.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I try to keep fb wedding-exposure rather moderate. Many of our connections on there are not invited and I certainly don’t want to be rude. I do keep my fb rather private in general.

A few engagement/ring pictures, maybe a couple “X more days!” updates over the course of the year. I plan on putting up a few wedding pictures, but not many. My relationship status does say that I am engaged to the Mr.

If someone asks directly about the wedding on my wall, I reply if it’s appropriate. If it’s something that I think is a little too detailed/involved/personal for all to see, I delete the post and respond to them via message.

For me, wedding and Facebook are not mutually exclusive, but I try to keep the two from intersecting too often.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

i thinkall of you ladies have amazing advice on how to use facebook the right way.

i had to delete my page because i was not able to do that. i have a had a rough couple of years so when i met my Fiance and we began to build this amazign life together i started to brag about every single sitution and thing that we/he did. it was to the point where i wanted to stop what i was doing and put a stat up about everything.

i def wish i had the fb etiquette that you guys had….so im taking a break from fb for a while. i dont need to brag about how amazing my life is and feel validated by people i havent seen inyeard or talked to in months. i kow how much God has blessed us….

when/if i return i pray that i am able to handle my self just as you guys have!!!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I keep wedding stuff off Facebook because at the end of the day, nobody cares about your wedding as much as you so posts just end up being annoying and I really don’t want to annoy my friends lol like my FB friends with kids. I’m happy they have families, but your kids really aren’t that special/interesting to people who aren’t related to them.

I don’t think it’s bad to post a pic of your ering or the very occasional frustrated wedding planning status or even “2 days to go!” but weekely updates, pictures etc? For me that’d land you a one way ticket to blocksville (but maybe I have a low-tolerance for this kinda thing).

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My profile is basically empty, with just relationship, some school info, work, and a quote filled in. I did not post my ring. Fiance and I talked about it briefly, and he said he would be uncomfortable and we both felt like a lot of people we know would take it as ‘bragging’. Sooo, I posted it here! Although I got a lot of wall comments ‘demanding’ to post my ring, but I still didn’t. I figured, if you and I are close enough, you’ll see me in person and see it anyway.

I dont’ want to put things about my wedding up, since are having a really small event, date TBD..but still…I don’t want people not invited to feel bad if I’m bragging via status all the time.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

double post.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I barely ever mention the wedding on facebook since the majority of my FB friends will not be invited. I know some people are like, “Well, it’s my fb I’ll post whatever I want they can delete me”, but to me it’s just polite and common sense to not go on and on about a party to someone that is not invited to it. The pics I don’t have as much control over because my Future Mother-In-Law posts pics of everything and tags me, lol.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I have a lot of friends on FB that I won’t be inviting to the wedding so I don’t post anything wedding related. I’m a really private person and I just feel like… it’s none of their business! The only thing I posted so far was that we were engaged and put up like 5 photos in an album of the night we got engaged (including 1 of the ring). That’s mostly because my family lives far away from me and everyone wanted to see pictures. That was much easier than emailing/texting them photos individually. 🙂

I have another friend who posts every. single. thing. related to their wedding and I had to block their status updates because it was so annoying!! Oh, and I’m not invited to their wedding so I deff don’t give a damn about their menu, invitations, DJ, etc.

I think I might put up a few of our e-pics and a few wedding photos after it’s all said and done, but other than that… FB is not an outlet for wedding related stuff — that’s what the bee is for!!

Post # 11
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Honey bee

I announced that we were engaged and that was it.  Most people dont have access to see my wall anyways. I keep it private from anyone that I dont talk to on a regular basis, even some family members! Im just a very private person in general and it weirds be out that someone I havent talked to in years could know random things going on in my life.

 Edit: Oh and I didnt put up any pictures of the engagement or the ring.  Although I took a million pics, it was such a private and beautiful moment and I dont want to share it with the world.

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’d say i’m somewhat careful on FB. I go through regularly and delete people I don’t really care about anymore. I also don’t post a ton of status updates, or if I do they’re kind of pointless. Like I do a lot of picture status updates of stuff I bake or of the pets doing something funny. I’ll comment on news stories or politics occassionally. Or maybe say something like “Off to michigan for the weekend!” That’s about as personal as my updates get. I don’t go emo. I don’t post angry/sad/angsty updates (<— annoying). I don’t post pics of me I wouldn’t show my mom and my boss. 

Regarding the wedding, I mostly kept it off fb. We got engaged on a vacation so i posted a vacation album and there were pics of the engagement on that. Then maybe in the week before the wedding I posted a couple things like “everyone will be here tomorrow!” or “t-7 days, yay!” but thats about it.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i changed my status to “engaged” and got a ton of “congratulations” which was cool

no closeup’s of the ring because i feel i’d look like i was bragging. 

i don’t ask about wedding stuff in my status because i think that’s lame. like why must people poll their friend list to find a vendor? google is your friend.. however a countdown is kind of cute.. not every day but like one week from today weee! i don’t see the prob in that 🙂

i privately message my married friends to ask opinions and vendor recco’s

i will definitely put up e photos and wedding photos because why else take photos than to share them, right?

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

I don’t really do wedding over-exposure on FB simply because other people do it and it is ANNOYING!  There are a few people on FB who are getting married after a two or three month courtship, and they post their wedding plans so frequently.  I feel like that if I do the same it will cheapen the value of my wedding, if that makes any sense. I feel like nobody will take my wedding/marriage seriously, because nobody takes those other girls seriously. Sometimes I’ll post a little something about my planning, but rarely.  There are also some people who I know are going to expect an invitation, and I don’t plan on inviting them, so I don’t want them to know the specific wedding details.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I use FB frequently, but its mostly to share photos with friends from big parties and get togthers and to keep in touch with friends I don’t talk to on a weekly basis. That being said I put no personal info on my FB page, I only have my email and name.. So def no wedding planning. And even though I’m in the wedding planning boat I find updates about this stuff obnoxious. I did not put that I was engaged and I never even put that I’m in a relationship. People who know me know these things. I feel like big news like engagements, pregnancies and what not should be shared with a phone call to those who are really important to you. Just my take. Plus I have a lot of cop friends, and they’re always saying “nothing good will ever come from FB”.

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