Post # 1
I don’t even know how to describe what I feel about this situation.
My uncle just passed away after a very long battle with cancer. We all knew his time was limited and have said our goodbyes but it is still sad. I am away at school right now and I was checking facebook in class (I know I shouldn’t.) And my uncle’s sister in law (complete not apart of my family put up the status
I’m not sure if this is appropriate, but I wanted to let Facebook friends know that my sister’s husband, Pete, lost his very brave battle with cancer a few minutes ago. Thanks for your prayers for his family.
Literally this went up minutes after he passed away. I found out that my only uncle on that side of my family died on facebook during class because of this post. I want to rant and rave that no it is not appropriate that you put this up this is not how people who are actually related to him want to find out. I talked to my parents right after class and they told me the news and it was still heartbreaking hearing it from them. I don’t know if I should even say anything but seriously people need to have some freakin respect and at least let the family find out first before you go posting it on facebook. And FYI – he didn’t even like you – he thought you were a nosy gossip. and he was right.
Sorry for the rant- I am angry and sad.
Post # 3
Oh my gosh, I am so sorry you had to find out that way. I agree it was very insensitive of that relative to announce something this major to your family this method…hugs.
Post # 4
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I’m so sorry – what a horrible way to find out!
Post # 5
Sorry about your loss. That is a harsh way to find out about a loved one’s death. My prayers are with you and your family.
Post # 6
Oh my gosh, Im so sorry for your loss. No one should have to find out something like that on facebook. *hugs*
Post # 7
I am so sorry for your loss. Finding out that way definately would make it harder. I think she was wrong to put that up before all the family had been notified. I think you could do one of two things.
1. Comment on her post thanking her for letting you know so soon, since you hadn’t even heard from your parents when she posted.
2. Let it go and spen your time with those who loved your uncle and remember who he was.
I think #2 would be the most meaningful, but I would be REALLY pissed as well and probably do #1.
Post # 8
… yeah, that’s completely not okay. Mr. KM and I had a deal with we would let all applicable parties know we were engaged before we put it on facebook. I feel like someone dying needs to have this rule times 100. I’d be tempted to write something really snarky to her and/or ask her to take it down. Goodness, I’m so, so sorry.
Post # 9
I am very sorry you found out this way and I am very sorry for your loss!
Some people just don’t understand that something that they do on facebook can affect others.
Post # 10
I am very sorry for your loss. That is a terrible way to find out. Like Future Mrs Martin said, some people just don’t get that what they say on facebook affects others.
Post # 11
I’m sorry for your loss, and echo the other posters comments about the inappropriateness of this person’s status update.
Perhaps it would be worth commenting on, so she doesn’t continue to make insensitive updates in the future; or at least make her realize that this in particular was not okay.
Post # 12
I am so sorry for your loss. May you take comfort in your family and be there to comfort your Aunt.
There is no good way to hear this news, but I imagine reading it on Facebook ranks near the bottom on prefered methods of communication. I think your desire to rant and rave and tell this woman that Facebook is NOT an appropriate way to communicate that new is completely valid and justified. That was a bit insensitive on her part.
Post # 13
i cant stand social networking sites, thats all i have to say haha
Post # 14
I’m very sorry about your uncle. I’m very sorry she’s such a nosy busy body! (I can relate with some of my “family” members.)
I really hate when people put private matters on Facebook. If those people need to know, they know phone numbers and someone would call them, not announce it to the world of people who really don’t understand. Someone’s death is private.
Post # 15
so so sorry. that was definitely not appropriate of her.
Post # 16
I’m so sorry for your loss and yes that was extremely rude to his family to post that on facebook. In the face of tragedy what kind of person goes on facebook the minute after someone passes to post about it. I mean….. really??