Facebook official

posted 3 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 2
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

If you’ve put a label on your relationship in real life I don’t see the problem with changing it on Facebook. If you are in an exclusive relationship why would it be weird to put that on social media?

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

I don’t think it’s weird, though I would maybe text your new boyfriend (congrats!!!) about if it’s cool. I’d keep the conversation real casual since it’s one of those things that only will be a big deal if you let it be. Some people don’t like their relationship status on Facebook for their own reasons and he might be one of them. Then again, he might not care at all! I put my status on the next day because I was excited too and because I asked my then boyfriend if he minded, and he didn’t.

Don’t over stress it! Just shoot him a text!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

Personally when I was on facebook I waited until I was fairly sure it would be a LTR to change my status on FB. I also asked my partner at the time whether that was okay with them. 2 weeks definitely seems too soon to announce to me. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it if that’s what you’re comfortable with (and he is too), but my perspective is that I don’t need everyone knowing my business unless it’s a really long term thing. Announcing you’re in a relationship online before it’s actually well-established ups the odds that you’ll have to change the status back to single at some point. 

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Ehh, my husband and I made it FBO the day we decided to be exclusive (before ever having gone on a date, actually) we spent time long distance getting to know one another and then one day he was like “Yo, we should just do it and make this something official.”

I would caution you to just be careful as you’re fresh out of a bad relationship and haven’t even been single very long, little less seeing this guy in particular. Make sure you aren’t dating someone just because you don’t want to be alone.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I don’t really Facebook, and he doesn’t have an account.  I didn’t update my status until we got engaged.  If you have made it official in real life and are both active on Facebook it would seem odd if you didn’t update your status.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

I was in an odd situation where I waited months to make it fb official after my fiance and I started dating. He was totally cool with the day we became official but knew my personal situation meant extra stress on me.

So long as he’s cool with it, I don’t see anything wrong.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

We waited about 6 months before being facebook official. But this was mainly because we were keeping our relationship on the DL because of work and a crazy ex. I say go for it if he’s cool with it

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

we didn’t become Facebook official until we got engaged 😂🤷🏼‍♀️

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

We posted plenty of things on facebok of us together and whatnot, but I really can’t remember if we become “facebook official.” TBH, I dont think we ever did. I just had in a relationship.

It didnt really matter that much to me honestly. In my previous relationship, of course I was about 5 years younger at the time, the guy I was dating was always on FB and used it to chat girls up/flirt. So at the time, It was important to me to be FBO with him so people knew. It wasnt a good relationship. lol.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I still haven’t updated my Facebook and we’re getting married in less than 2 months… but if you and he are both okay with it then I don’t think it’s strange or anything. I just don’t use facebook for much.

Post # 12
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Helper bee

We didn’t make it Facebook official until we got married… I didn’t have anything as my relationship status but then again there were many photos of us together and obviously people knew we were a couple in real life and I didn’t feel the need to update Facebook.

I do think 2 weeks is really early – I probably would have waited to see how it goes. But that’s me, I hate getting those “likes” on status change and then if things don’t work out you have to update it and everyone knows you broke up.

Post # 13
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Busy bee

I left it until a month in as I really didn’t want people to be confused just in case we broke up (I’ve been in “relationships” that were under a month and I was SO glad I didn’t change the status even though people around us knew in real life).

Facebook is VERY public to me as nearly everyone I know near or far is there, so I really want to make sure that it’s going to be a serious, stable relationship before I tell the world.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I personally didn’t make our relationship known on social media/outside of my small group of friends until after we got married. 

You can imagine the calls I got, lol.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

My boyfriend and I didn’t change it on Facebook until after a year of dating lol we really didn’t care about it. If you felt like it was important to you to share it with social media the that’s cool too! Just talk to him about it and make sure he feels ok with it too. 

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