Post # 1
I’ve finally stopped freaking out and allowed myself to start thinking ahead a little and about telling people. I will be roughly 12 weeks on our wedding anniversary and have a scan the day before it. I’m very tempted to “announce” it on Facebook on our anniversary. However I also kind of hate Facebook announcements. I hated seeing them when we were trying and half the time it wasn’t people I knew but someone I know had liked it and it came up on mine. I don’t know everyone’s lives and don’t want to upset someone going through the same. Obviously the people we are closest too I will tell individually so it does seem a little pointless putting it up to tell that person I went to school with ten years ago and haven’t spoken to since. Pretty sure I’m rambling on with no point!
So thoughts on Facebook announcements? A good way to let everyone know or tacky?
Post # 2
I find FB announcements to be silly. I always wonder of the person is showing off, bragging, searching for validation or what? I understand that for some FB has become the only way to communicate with certain people, but still wouldn’t you rather call them? Also, most of thesw announcements (pregnancies, engagements, funerals) are private and I can’t wrap my head around the idea of making something so intimate, public.
I especially find silly the pregnancy announcements were they use a photo of their pregnancy tests in positive.
But, well, that is my opinion and I respect those who disagree with me 🙂
Post # 3
Itsnotme : I think they are a great way to announce the news to everyone at the same time, provided VIP’s are already told either in person, or over the phone.
I hate when people say you shouldn’t talk about pregnancy on FB, in case it upsets some people. I just had a miscarriage a couple of months ago, and sure, I feel a bit sad when I see a pregnancy post pop up, but I mainly feel happy for that couple. By that logic, people should avoid posting about weddings, promotions or any other happy news.
Post # 4
newlywednewbie : Yes a part of me does feel it’s showing off. I feel for me a little bit of it is showing off as well. I have a frienemy I’d really like to hear about it (she is the first of our college group to have a child and has since looked down on all the rest of us, I made the mistake of confiding in her about our struggle conceiving and she said it’s probably because we don’t deserve children. Ended the last thread of our friendship pretty quickly!) so Facebook is the only way that would filter to her which I know is just beyond petty!! The pee stick photos just gah! I never get those it’s a stick you peed on! One came up a sister of a friend she posted it literally before the pee dried. She took the test, told her partner and put it on Facebook. If we do do one it will be something with our dog, we are crazy dog people and I don’t think anyone thinks we will have a child and just lots of dogs as he is our world.
youngbrokebride : yeah valid point we shared our engagement and wedding on there so it seems silly to not share a pregnancy. We are obviously already the sharif types.
Post # 5
Itsnotme : Personally I enjoy them. That’s what FB is for at the end of the day when you really think about it. It’s not meant to be private. And in my opinion if someone is super sensitive about a subject then they should stay offline because world will not stop spinning for them.
For example, I was waiting for Fiance to propose almost two years and at the end it drove me f***ing crazy seeing people get engaged or married. I just stopped checking FB that often in order to avoid those feelings.
I say if you told your VIPs first in person then go ahead and spread the happy news. Especially on your anniversary – that will be really awesome. 🙂
Post # 6
Congratulations on your pregnancy, bee!
I think pregnancy/engagement/wedding announcements are great. The thought that the poster is showing off has never crossed my mind. The poster is obviously just really excited and happy and wants to share their good news. If you’d like to announce your pregnancy on your anniversary, then go for it!
Post # 7
Pregnancy and engagement announcements on Facebook are par for the course these days. I never find them strange. I don’t consider announcements to be part of the eyeroll-inducing over-sharing culture on social media. (I’m over the “Little Johnny is five weeks and four days old! Squee!” posts, though.)
Let’s not forget that the entire purpose of social media is to share things online. Social things. Like what’s happening in your life. There are weirder things to post on FB than a pregnancy announcement. Like pictures of food. So if someone finds your major social news to be annoying or weird, perhaps they don’t understand the point of the platform they’re using.
You can always adjust your privacy settings to control who sees your announcement. But as far as whether it’s weird to announce something like that publicly…have we already forgotten that weddings, births, and deaths have traditionally been published in newspapers?? 😛
Post # 8
I don’t make or like FB announcements for me personally, but I like seeing others if they are open to sharing.
Post # 9
I’ve always joked that I wasn’t going to make any announcement….and just let people wonder if I was pregnant or fat..haha.
Seriously though….announce it if you want. I think the creative announcement ideas are definitely over-played and there isn’t that much that’s really creative anymore.
Post # 10
A friend from college didn’t post an announcement and we were all so shocked when she posted a picture of her with a baby in the hospital. One of my friends thought that she had adopted and then gone to the hospital to pose in pictures (not at all what happened). Interesting how norms change.
Another friend made a cute announcement, but emailed it out. I feel like that’s a good route if you want a little more privacy.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
I think a tastefully done Facebook announcement is a fine idea 🙂
Post # 12
We did a facebook announcement after telling those closest to use. We have a lot of extended family that we aren’t particularly close to but also felt they should know about the coming baby. I think it really depends on the person though. For some people it doesn’t work, or it isn’t what they want and that’s fine. For us, it was mostly just about communicating it as quickly and efficiently as we could.
Post # 13
I am of the mindset that FB announcements are attention seeking. Having a baby is an intimate moment for your family. Whatever happened to picking up the phone and calling people? Even if a phone call is all you can do distance considering it’s a whole lot more personal than a general public announcement.
I am pretty pregnant and won’t announce on FB. I also won’t tell anyone outside of our family. If someone asks I will disclose, but it’s nobody’s business. Eventually a family member will post a picture and people will find out. I am old school.
Post # 14
I think an announcement is fine. There are lots of people that would never call me to tell me that they were pregnant, but who I would still be happy to see on facebook. I only find it self-absorbed when people post weekly pinterest-style bump photo shoots or a million ultrasounds. I’m also not a fan of the pee stick photos.
As far as making people sad, do you not share vacation photos because some people can’t afford vacations? Do you not share wedding photos because some people are single? Do you not share that you graduated college because some people dropped out? I don’t think you should hide your happiness because some people aren’t as fortunate. That said, you don’t need to constantly be rubbing it in people’s faces either.
Post # 15
I think it depends on what you use Facebook for. I only have people I actually know like Friends & Family and my page is private. Since I personally know everyone the announcement would go to, I feel that is fine. Facebook is the way I choose to communicate with family since I live so far away and often the only time I have to make a phone call is when everyone else is at work or asleep.
If you use Facebook for promoting, Building a network of acquaintences, and many of the people you have befriended are strangers etc. it may be over sharing information.