Post # 61
I think announcements are fine, it’s the constant updates that are way too much. Like I’m happy for a friend that gets engaged or pregnant, or whatever, but I don’t care enough about the updates afterwards, the posts on the ultrasounds, belly photos, or when it comes to engagements: the posts of the wedding planning process. Announcing shows excitement and that’s fine, updates is showing off.
Post # 62
To me this is exactly the point of Facebook. The combination of a childhood cross-country move, yearly summer camp through a national program,and 9 months of travelling post highschool grad means that my friends and family are widely spread. Close family and friends either found out in person or over the phone. But the people I lived with for 9 months 8 years ago? I love seeing their life updates but we just don’t talk on the phone, and Facebook is perfect for that. I mean, I only have 32 friends on Facebook so obviously this can be taken with a grain of salt since I’m obviously not putting anything out to ‘total strangers’.
As far as the ‘showing off’ thing, I really truly don’t get that. I mean, after enough time has passed the bump will give it away and I don’t think that’s ‘showing off’. I don’t think you should have to pretend that something that’s genuinely a significant event in your life (and body!) isn’t happening just because other people might think it’s ‘showing off’.
I’ll be 14 weeks on our wedding anniversary this year so we’ll be ‘announcing’ it then, but again most of the people on there already know, it will only be a surprise to 6 of them. But it’s also my way of signalling to everyone that it’s okay to talk about now as everyone had been sworn to secrecy until past the first trimester and we finished telling family, close friends, and our bosses at work.
Post # 63
I’m 20 weeks and we haven’t announced on social media. It’s taken a lot for us to get here, 5miscarriages along the way. Originally when we first started ttc we would have done one on fb and even saved cute picture ideas. The more losses we had the more fb announcements would hurt my heart, especially babies due when mine would have. I was open about my infertility so lots of people reached out and told me things I never would have known otherwise. Now that we are safe to announce I just don’t feel like it anymore, even though I know people would be happy for us, the thought of causing anyone to feel a bit sad or remind them of their own situation just makes me feel sad as I know how it feels to be blindsided by those annoucements. I think we will just keep it private. Nothing against those who choose to announce on fb though.
Post # 64
Yeah I’m old so I’m a bit lost, but what is Facebook for? Isn’t keeping your wall updated so family and friends could be in the know of your life the objective?
I see posting photos of luxury items as being showy. There’s no purpose in everybody seeing your latest buys–other than bragging of course.
But life events qualify as that–moments to share with people. I’m sure the whole pull of Facebook to begin with is to SHARE. If no one is sharing because of all the unnecessary shaming then what?
Post # 65
peegee : Fair, but I also don’t like them because it’s literally the inside of your body. And it’s a picture of your baby before it’s fully formed that just seems so private – the whole ultra-sound pic on FB is too public and invasive for me. You can create a little animated “It’s a Boy/Girl!” or whatever without doing a photo shoot; I’ve had friends do that.
Post # 66
I probably wouldn’t, but only because we’ve miscarried and I’m scared of something happening (even after 12 weeks) and then having to explain to people. Except for very close friends I have unfollowed people I don’t know well that have announced pregnancies. I would also be sensitive to announcing knowing it could cause someone pain. If I do – if and when we ever fall pregnant – I think I would mention our struggle.
Post # 67
- Wedding: February 2015 - Hotel Phillips
I think they’re as big of a deal as you want them to be! A cute photo with a quick blurb can be a nice way to share your joy/excitement/news. Or you could just start posting random baby updates without an announcement and watch as people start to catch up. We did an announcement for the baby we miscarried, and this time around we waited until I was about 5 months before sharing the news, but I don’t regret sharing the news both times. We decided we’d spend every second celebrating our babies no matter what, and looking back I’m glad I let myself get so excited for our first baby (even though we lost them).
It’s the easiest way to get the word out, and it doesn’t put people on the spot for a certain reaction, which I prefer. It also gives you the option of blocking certain people from seeing it if they’re struggling with infertility or anything like that and have made it clear they can’t handle seeing that kind of thing. There’s also something nice about just getting the news out into the universe.
PLUS it’s better to see on a newsfeed than idiotic political stuff. 🙂
Post # 68
- Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman
SaraJeanQ : I see what you’re saying, I guess it’s just a personal choice. To me I don’t find sharing an ultrasound pic too personal or invasive but I can see how others might.
Post # 69
- Wedding: February 2015 - Hotel Phillips
morningcoffee : I’m so sorry for your loss. For what it’s worth, we included our lost baby when we announced recently… It’s a beautiful moment to honor both babies with I think! But you’ll know what’s right for you. Just my two cents. 🙂
Post # 70
Nay for me. After the birth is fine but before I wouldn’t.
Post # 71
I would not announce a pregnancy on FB.