(Closed) Facebook Status Updates

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What would you do?
    Let it go and just block her statuses from your "news" : (159 votes)
    84 %
    Write the blog about general social networking ettiquette hoping she gets the message... : (21 votes)
    11 %
    Say something to her in person/via email/on phone about it : (4 votes)
    2 %
    anonymously send her an etiquete book : (1 votes)
    1 %
    other (see below).... : (5 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2867 posts
    Sugar bee

    Honestly, she’ll probably get angry/upset if you mention it to her.  I think you should just block her updates.

    Post # 4
    Member
    5263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Hmm, I think a blog post might be a tad bit passive aggressive. Maybe if you really want to say something it would be better to address it directly. Something not accusatory, but just along the lines of how your own experiences led you to realize that it can hurt peoples’ feelings not to be invited, but hearing all about it online. 

    I will say that I posted when we signed for our venue. I think small things, once in awhile, aren’t a big deal.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2237 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Personally, I don’t really understand why so many people get so upset over other people’s status updates on facebook.  Do I do it personally? No.  But I don’t really care about the people that do, I just don’t read them.  She’s obviously excited enough to be posting on facebook about it constantly, why would you want to ruin her excitement?  I don’t think you should post anything about it on your blog, personally I think that’s really rude.  If you’re close enough with this girl that you think you should give input on what she puts on the internet, at least have a 1 on 1 conversation with her, don’t post it on the internet.

    Post # 6
    Member
    674 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think if you write something on your blog it will almost certainly appear rude and mean-spirited. We all know our weddings are important only to us, but it’s probably true that most of us have at one time or another talked/posted/emailed/etc. about our wedding a bit too much without realising.

    It’s probably best to just hide her from your news feed so that you don’t have to be faced with the incessant posting, without doing anything else that might cause a rift between the two of you.

    Post # 7
    Member
    286 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    Let her do what she wants….its her day. I put things on FB about my wedding and i have 250 Facebook friends from school and growing up who weren’t invited and they love making comments and getting excited for me. Sorry, i don’t think its really your business….block her if you don’t want to hear about it.

    Post # 8
    Member
    175 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    i agree with kanebaby, i don’t post something every day but i have posted stuff when excited.. such as when i found my shoes and about going to running of the brides, and when i found a salon, and stuff like that…if you’re offended by them then i personally would just block or not read them.

    Post # 10
    Member
    6248 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 1900

    Personally, I would just block her updates like PPs above suggested.  She’s probably just excited, I mean, it is her wedding after all!  I don’t like when people can’t/don’t discuss issues they have with me personally.  Most of the time I honestly don’t know that I am annoying someone, but I really respect people when they discuss issues with me like an adult.  If I saw something about me in one of my friends blogs, I would be slightly hurt and I would lose a little respect for that friend, because I would feel that they were talking about me behind my back instead of just mentioning it to me directly.  That’s just ME though…

    Post # 11
    Member
    2410 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    You should ignore and say nothing. Honestly, there are many things in life that could potentially hurt someone’s feelings and if we all took every single little thing into account life would suck. I personally wouldn’t be Facebooking so many wedding details, but if she wants to just let her. It is a once in a lifetime deal, and her posting sound harmless to me. Definitely let it go.

    Post # 12
    Member
    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    It depends on how close you are to her. If she’s a good friend like you are asked to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, then I would gently say something to her about the status updates possibly hurting some feelings since not everyone is invited. If she’s not that great a friend, I would just delete her updates from your news feed.

    Post # 13
    Member
    2237 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @spaganya: On Sunday I made my FB status “11 months to go!  I hope they go as fast as the last one did!”  Does that mean I’m looking for attention???  She’s excited.  We all sit on weddingbee talking about nothing but weddings because we’re excited.  Why is that a crime?  Just because she has friends who are going through divorces doesn’t mean she can’t be happy that she’s getting married.  And how can you tell the “tone” in a facebook status?

    Post # 14
    Member
    4547 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I would just hide her from your news feed. You don’t have to hear about it and she can keep on writing whatever she wants as her facebook status. It’s a win-win!

    Post # 15
    Member
    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Facebook statuses can get pretty annoying, but there aren’t any established ‘rules’ about them. Yes, she shouldn’t be talking about the wedding in front of people who aren’t invited, but it’s not like all 900 of her friends will care or expect to be invited.

    Just hide her and move on :).

    Post # 16
    Member
    1641 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Just ignore it; she’ll dig her own hole.

     

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