Post # 17
I don’t get why people are so against them? I never open e-invites because there’s so many scams parading as “you have a card waiting for you”. Also, you can FB invite someone who doesn’t have a FB, just need their email address :). I would actually prefer a FB invite, no paper to lose & I usually throw invites away after the wedding.
I sent out FB invites around 3 months before the wedding because I wasn’t sure where I would live so didn’t want invites to get returned to a place I moved out of. Darling Husband also was moving. I didn’t know my address until 25 days before the wedding & I didn’t want to explain to everyone the reasons why. If anyone thought we were “tacky”, we didn’t care. We did send out mailed invites because we had everything printed & designed, but it wasn’t until like 3 weeks before the wedding.
Post # 18
Oh I don’t like it at all. If you can’t afford that stuff, at least follow it up with a personal phone call or SOMETHING.
Post # 19
I had friends that did some invites as a paper invitation, some Facebook and some eVite. I’m partial to good old fashioned paper invitations.
Post # 20
I’m gonna be the oddball and say a Facebook event for the wedding is fine, IF you have friends/family who need all the reminders they can get. AND who practically LIVE off facebook. (I have several of these in my and my FI’s friends list…)
HOWEVER, an actual invitation is ALSO REQUIRED. Even those who will be tagged in the FB invite will be recieving an actual invite, even if we have to drive it to them. Or hound them until they give us their address (not like THAT will be a problem, lol).
Post # 21
Come on people, everything is done via the interwebs why should inviting be any different? I am all for it, but myself having physical invites, becasue see the drama you cause when you don’t?
I did do FB Save-The-Date Cards and I’m still hounding people for addresses via FB, how much easier is it that I don’t need to know their address?
Post # 22
I’ve gotten one invite through Paperless Post, but the couple is extremely conscious about conservation of resources. If made sense for them and they clearly looking into a pretty, but comfortable way for them to send their invitations.
I get invitations to girls’ night out via Facebook. It just doesn’t seem like an appropriate vehicle for a wdding invitation.
Post # 23
I’ve gotten a mass facebook invite to a wedding before. However, I understood the circumstances. Long story short, this couple were college ministers and wanted to invite the people on their campuses (two different colleges) to the wedding. However, there were more than like 400 students altogether. The invite explained that we were allowed to come, and if you want to brng a date, you had to find someone who was already invited to take. Granted, we didn’t need dates to the wedding, because we would’ve known at leat 400 people there.
Another time I got an e-vite to a wedding. It was a simliar situation… however I wasn’t in college anymore. I was kind of annoyed that they would lump me in with all the other college folks. Sad thing is, because it was an e-mail, I immediately was like, sure I’ll come. But when time got closer, I had forgotten all about it and didn’t go. I think technology is great, but I refuse to use it because when people get e-vites or facebook invitations, they just say “Yes” without really considering it… and then you end up with LESS guests than you thought.
Post # 24
@canthugallcats: I don’t understand why people are so bent out of shape about it.
I personally wouldn’t do it but hey, people are under increasing budget constraints and not everyone can afford invites. That said, I probably wouldn’t have a big wedding if that were the case. I don’t understand the need to be so judge-y about the entire thing! It’s not always about laziness. I’d much rather get a an e-vite/FB invite than the couple go into debt or worse, not invite me b/c they’re too afraid of being embarrassed by that form of invitation.
To each their own.
Post # 25
@Atalanta: Exactly! About 1/3 of the guests didn’t get back to us with their addresses, we called, texted, FB messaged them… some people never responded but they showed up to the wedding. We have so many extra invitations that were never sent because we never got their addresses.
Post # 26
My other half plans on inviting some of his old school buddies to the evening reception via facebook on a “come if you fancy it” basis as it will be quite informal without any catering. I am however having proper invitations (which I intend on making by hand if I ever get round to it) for the formal reception and wedding breakfast (our actual wedding ceremony is abroad and no one is invited!).
I guess facebook has its place, but I wouldn’t invite my mum using it!!
Post # 27
@beekiss: I completely agree with you. Although I wouldn’t send out a facebook invite, if someone else did, I wouldn’t be offended. They probably have reasons for why they decided to do so. Although the sentiment of receiving a personalized invitation is nice. So they probably still should have at least personalized their e-vite to every guest. But as long as they’re happy, at the end of the day, that’s all that matters–not a piece of paper.
Post # 28
I hate facebook invitations! I received one for my FI’s cousin’s wedding. He doesn’t have facebook. But I did receive an invite in the mail from her Maid/Matron of Honor for her bachelorette party, WTF???
Post # 29
After hearing some responses, I think my biggest problem was how confusing it was. I really had no idea if Fiance was invited or not, because he hadn’t gotten an invite! It just seems like a really casual, imprecise way to send out invitations. I mean, will all of the people they invited assume they can bring a +1? Are the bride and groom prepared for that to happen? Because without sending invites that specifically say “Person and guest,” or without individually inviting all the boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands or wives of their guests, it seems like a lot of people will not know who exactly is invited or who they can bring as guests (or how many!).
Post # 30
I will be sending out my invites on facebook. I really don’t think it’s tacky. Its unconventional, yes. I’ve got my reasons for doing it this way.I’m a first year teacher and my weekends are spent grading and planning for the week. I don’t really have time or patience to address 200 wedding invitations. No I will not cut down my list I want all of my 200 guests to be apart of my special day. Facebook invites make the most sense for my situation. My day won’t be any less special because of the invitations (or lack there of) it’s going to be a great day. I would encourage all brides to do what’s best for your situation and not worry about what “friends” or random strangers on a message boards think. Your day will be special not becuase of the invitations, flowers, or cake but becuase your marrying someone you truley love in front of friends and family.
Post # 30
Oribel013690: If money is an issue, use paperless post! It’s classier and feels more personal than Facebook!