Post # 1
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Bee Keeper
so, I think it is safe to say that most of the brides here are planners or at least were for their wedding. With that said, I really get bothered by people inviting people to their weddings on facebook. A girl I went to HS posted the day of her wedding that for anyone who was interested to stop by xyz at xpm that day to see them get hitched and stay afterwards for some food and beer. WTH? I just dont understand the planning on that. How do you plan a wedding when you dont know how many people are coming? also today another girl I went to high school with posted on her facebook….
“Ok if ur coming to my wedding please don’t worry bout washing ur car the road is a mud bog and it is a lil bitty country church so don’t expect anything fancy and ya might be standing if ya don’t get there early”
wow, really?!…..
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
Umm…wow. That ish is crazy. I agree, no way could I plan without knowing how many people were going to be there!! I would never do an event on facebook – I did ask people directly for addresses, but only through the mail feature
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
@MrsSl82be: Yeah, facebook is a great way to get addresses or contacting for other ways. But to invite the facebook world by a status update is just crazy to me!
Post # 5
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Helper bee
Maybe for some people that is fine but I could never do that. Too many up in the air details.
Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
One of my best friends did something similiar. She only sent out a handful of invitations (I didn’t even get one and I was a bridesmaid!) and the rest of her guests were invited via a FB wall post. It was basically worded just like your HS friends. She somehow ended up having a rough estimate and there was enough food and chairs but the way she went about it was a little ridiculous.
I guess some people just don’t think the way that we do (the planners). I personally could NEVER do that but then again I’m also having a formal seated dinner. Those who have more casual weddings can be a little more lax when it comes to concrete guest lists.
Post # 7
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Busy bee
Well I can definatly see you point of things, but I will add I’m going to be doing this. I won’t be annoucing it on my status like that because I think that’s just asking for trouble but I am going to be sending our friends an informal invite through mesaging to save on money. I’ve also used this for addresses too. She sounds like her wedding will be very similar to mine which is, who ever get’s here is great and we’ll have an awesome time…guest count isn’t always a priority.
Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
@Firefighter_Bride: I think it is smart and efficient to invite people via a personal message. Its posting as a status update inviting all your 500 friends on FB that I think is outragous. How do you know who and how many people come…I would not think much about it if I was invited via personal message on facebook. But someone posting one message invititing everyone is just crazy. I think your idea is a lot different than her’s. Good luck!
Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
@Firefighter_Bride: “guest count isn’t always a priority”
If you’re serving any kind of food or drink & providing your guests with a chair to park their tooshies in, it kind of is.
Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
@bestbuddies: I agree. It is the carelessness of it all that burns me up, not just the lacking details. While Facebook has its few plusses (and all electronic communication for that matter) one of its pitfalls is the dissolve of decent, human communication. The acknowledgment of the value of a personal invitation to a wedding, and one’s response, is reduced to a status update and the question of whether one will show up at all. Huh? Sure it’s easier to reach the masses with one post, but it strikes me as heartless and just plain lazy.
Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
@Cornflakegirl: agreed! well said 🙂
Post # 12
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Busy bee
I’d feel really awkward showing up to a wedding I was invited to via a FB wall post. Unless I was close to the couple I’d have no clue if they really wanted me there. Let’s face it, we aren’t close friends or hang out with our 500 high school FB friends. Almost seems like a gift grab unless their friends list is truly everyone they’d invite anyway. Even so it just seems impersonal.
Post # 13
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Worker bee
I could maybe see a private message but to just say, anyone whos bored come see me tie the knot, seems a bit odd. Like did people actually just show up because they had nothing to do?
Post # 14
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Sugar bee
Being invited via facebook, to me, feels extremely like you weren’t worth the extra $.50 to $2.00 it would have cost them to send you a real paper invitation. I feel like I wasn’t really that important to them or as if I was immediately B listed. I think that invitations is the wrong place to completely cut out of your budget. Do something incredibly informal with just a slip of paper you printed from your computer or do post cards because those can be really inexpensive. Anything but completely taking out the personal invitiation. I feel special and important to a bride and groom when I recieve a wedding invite. Facebook makes me feel like i’m leftovers.
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
i’ve got 400 friends on facebook and most of them are high school folk or networking for work/school……no way i’m gonna be inviting all of them through a fb status…not my cup of tea….
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
It is not what I would do, but that is how some people work. If they want to do things that way and their family and friends are fine with it… whatever.