(Closed) facebook..family..and my baby… SO FUSTRATED!

posted 7 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I understand how you feel because you love your LO soo unbelievably much!  But…. everyone else is just soooo excited about the arrival.  Everyone loves babies and loves to see new borns.  I’d say what is the difference if a stranger sees a photo on facebook compared to them seeing the baby at the mall.

 

Be proud that people want to celebrate your bub with the world 🙂 xx 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I understand you’re feeling protective, but you’re going a little overboard. Unless you keep your baby in a closet, people are going to be seeing your baby, taking pictures and being excited and happy. It comes with the territory of having a new baby. A newborn is a newborn, generally they all look alike, so really the photo is going to have significance for friends and family and that is about it. I’d say try to relax a bit and enjoy this time without trying to keep the paparazzi away.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I actually couldn’t agree with you more. I have an 8 year old DS and have been on FB since the college only days. Since day one, I have never posted a picture of my child and have made it clear to family members that I am not comfortable with it.

I also never posted pictures of my wedding. In fact, I don’t even have status updates or a wall on my facebook. It’s really just there for connections and then I move all communication to email, phone or text.

We are not the norm, that’s for sure. So, if it’s really important to you, stand your ground. Set the boundary and make yourself clear.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

As a 2nd time mom I can understand your concern. However, I think that you will drive yourself crazy worrying about something as unimportant as this. If Aunt Hilary and Uncle Jack post them their friends aren’t really going to know or care about that baby they see pop up. They might comment how cute but 10 minutes later forget about it. Sometimes looking at it from a different perspective helps.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Personally, I’m not in agreement with you. Only because I think you’ll drive yourself batty (and drive a wedge in your family). I hear where you’re coming from, but meh… it’s my feeling that you’d be happier to just forget about it – don’t sweat the small stuff <3

***This kinda changes later in life. I would NOT be comfortable with people posting pictures of my daughter say, at the beach when she’s 4-5+… or pictures of her cheering at school.

Too personal, and too revealing into where my child is and what she does there. But, in the safety of grandma’s kitchen or my own backyard – share away.

 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

i kind of share your feelings…my Mother-In-Law loves to repost photos of DS because she is just so excited and proud of her first and only grandbaby. sometimes i get the creeps thinking of all the strangers who get to steal a peek at my little munchkin without my permission, but like PP said, seeing photos on fb today is like walking through the mall. most people don’t think twice about them, except the people who know you and are interested in photos of the baby anyway!

try to relax about it, and be flattered that your family loves and wants to show off your LO! i think it’s pretty inevitable in this day and age.

 

ETA: I totally think your friends and family should respect your wishes not to post! It’s unacceptable for them to disregard your wishes. Just meant that some people have gotten so unbelievably comfortable with fb that a picture or two is liable to be posted on shared and once it’s out there, there’s not much you can do besides reminding your peeps to simmer down.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think people should respect your wishes and not post pictures of your baby if you feel strongly about it.  I totally disagree with those who say you should be flattered, whats so flattering about people sharing your babies pictures with random strangers who dont know you. Especially in this day and age with so many predators out there? This is your baby and you should get the final say in where your babies pictures are posted.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree with both sides; if you do not want photos of your child online, make it known and don’t give in. Set the precedent now or it’ll just get harder as he gets older. That said, you may drive yourself crazy trying to control everyone’s actions. It will probably be difficult for a while before everyone understands that you are serious. But if it’s important to you, than maybe it’s worth it. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@dj: If you are concerned about it, perhaps you should pull all the photos of your baby off Facebook? I can definitely see why you’d want to keep them out of sight from a “friend” of a friend. If I were you, just pull all the pics until everyone gets the hint that you aren’t playing around.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I find it extremely rude on the part of your friends/family who are posting photos of your child without your approval. I don’t even post photos of my own niece without asking my sister first even though my niece has her own website. It’s just common courtesy. You don’t know who’s out there lurking on your friend’s friend’s friend’s facebook page or what their privacy settings are. I feel you are not being over protective, it’s just the world we live in today.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think it depends on the context a bit. For instance, if someone is posting a family picture that your child is in, I wouldn’t be so concerned. I’d be more concerned if they are posting pictures close up or individual pictures of your child. Ultimately it’s your choice, and you don’t want pictures up, you should stand your ground. But you will have to expect that a picture or 2 might get through.

Also, I would be more concerned about tagging or using my child’s name in the picture caption, than just the picture.

Most of my family is not on facebook, or they are, but don’t post much on their page. They look at pictures of DS I have up (viewing limited to my very streamlined group of friends and family) but they don’t post pictures of DS themselves. Although this will be my first holiday with DS, so a few might pop up.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@vmblai1019: I can definitely see the OP’s point as well. Another similar solution would be that if there are a couple specific people that are reposting the pictures, simply block any photo albums with your child in it to those posters. Tell them what you did. You can make it so specific people can and can’t see individual pictures.

I guess my personal opinion is that if you want to post a picture of someone else’s kid, you should have the parents’ permission. Obviously they don’t, so I do see it as being pretty disrespectful of your wishes. Even if other people think you’re crazy or overprotective, it’s still disrespectful of your personal opinion.

@mrstilly: I do have to agree about family pictures though… if someone takes pictures of their kids opening presents at the family Christmas and your child happens to be off to the side in one of them, as long as they don’t draw attention to your child I think you’d just have to let this go, since they aren’t intentionally posting pictures of your child.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I think probably the only thing to do is just not post pics on facebook.

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