Post # 1
I love my dress. I couldn’t stop thinking of my dress for weeks before I bought it this past weekend. It’s amazing. I’ve received some very wonderful compliments in it.
That said, why oh WHY am I getting panicky and taking any negative comments too personally? I went in thinking I developed super human thick skin and anything would bounce off me. But now, with 8 months before I even see this dress again, I have waaaaay too much time on my hands for what ifs, uh ohs, you name it. I had a dumb nightmare last night that I could read everyone’s minds as I walked down the aisle and things like ‘silly’, ‘ridiculous’, and ‘what the hell was she thinking’ were heard.
I picked a silhouette that isn’t flattering on a lot of women, especially petite women. I really took the risk in looking odd, and I know I will look odd to some. I turned away from another gown that is VERY safe and more traditional leaning, and while that’s not my personality, I can’t help but wonder.
I know dresses are so subjective and individual, which is why I love the ‘What does my dress say about you?’ thread here. Seeing the many regret threads in the past few weeks, I’m glad I’m not alone in second guessing anything.
All venting aside…how the heck do you bees get past this lull??? Looking at other gowns might not help but I don’t want to stop coming to this section because I have too much fun here.
Post # 3
@techie: i know how you feel. i just paid for mine a few days ago and while i wait for it to arrive, i sometimes have a mild panic. i think it’s gotta be a fear of commitment.
I KNEW this was my dress, I knew this was my dress, I knew this was my dress… but now that I don’t have that freedom anymore, what if i’m wrong…
Just keep reminding yourself of how you felt before ordering.
Post # 4
@techie: NO YOU ARE NOT! You are beautiful, your dress is beautiful, just stunning! 🙂 You know I’ve been staring in awe at you and your dress! You are not allowed to have any regrets, because you have made a stunning decision. Try to remove yourself from the purchase of your dress for a little while, and then return to photos of it a few months later. 🙂 You will fall in love with her all over again, i promise!
Post # 5
@rosworms: Glad I’m not alone. And I really am trying to remind myself. I’m looking at photos of that day when I had my best friends with me.
I hope we’re not feeling this way as we get closer to the ceremony. These silly jitters…
Post # 6
@pengoala: ::blush:: Thank you. You’re right though, because I am obsessing over those photos! Lots of mixed feelings when I see them. I really do love my gown! But I get terrified too. I will try. 🙂
Post # 7
I definitely feel the same doubts you are feeling. I remind myself that just because a dress looks phenomenal on another bride on WB, or in a photograph, does not mean it would look the same on me. I chose my dress bc it looked amazing on me. and in that moment, i felt perfect. I have to try to hold onto that moment. that is why it cracks me up that people can just choose a dress by looking at a photo of a model in a dress. thats not how it works. the dress chooses the bride, just as the bride chooses the dress.
Also, choosing a dress is like choosing a groom, IMO. there are amazing grooms out there, but mine is perfect for me. just like my dress. there are amazing other dresses out there, but mine is perfect for me.
Did any of that rambling make sense?
Post # 8
@Sschaf: Hehe, it makes perfect sense. I keep thinking of my fiance as I have these thoughts. We stopped looking for a reason, right?
Post # 9
exactly 🙂 and I just looked up your dress, and its beautiful. fun, sexy, and modern.
Post # 10
Thank you! This was the other gown. It made my Maid/Matron of Honor cry! Really pretty gown, but too much emphasis on the bust for me:
Post # 11
@techie:I STILL think about making the wrong choice even though I had my first fitting and love my dress. I just ALSO love another one.
AND the other one is a ballgown–what I always dreamed of. Sigh.
I look at dresses here on the bee to help, it doesn’t. But staying away doesn’t help either.
You will be gorgeous in the dress you chose.
It’s just easier to be nervous about something more concrete than “THE WHOLE WEDDING.”
It will be fine. You will look fabulous and you will still LOVE your dress.
Post # 12
From your previous posts, you loved this dress from the first time you saw it. This is not a dress for a stick-thin girl–it requires some curves. You don’t look short in the photos you posted. When you get “your” dress, if the interest at the bottom is too much, do more with your headpiece/veil/earrings to balance it out. Cross that bridge in 8 months.
While it is a classic silhouette, it is not a traditional look (lace, ballgown). Not everyone is going to appreciate it. They either wore whatever they wanted at their wedding, or will wear whatever they want when they get married. This is YOUR wedding. Your dress is amazing (love the sequins!)-don’t doubt your decision.
EDIT–dress #2 is also beautiful. However, I can’t imagine it on anybody over a 34B:)
Post # 13
@ellabee: You mean like that fact that we’ll be confessing our love for each other in a room full of the most important people in our lives? XD I’ve gone over that part a million times in my head too…
Dunno if I’ve seen your dress yet. I have seen that Anne Barge that you didn’t go with…
I think in the back of our minds if we don’t go ballgown, we always wonder about one. 🙂 Princess fantasies from eons ago!
Post # 14
@Georgia Bee: I think seeing my dress, not a worn out sample, will really make all the difference in the world. And you’re right…it won’t please everyone. And the only person it should please is the one wearing it. I have to keep reminding myself of that! Thanks!
EDIT: Yes! I know. The consultant tried to demonstrate how they would mold those cups for my size G boobs, and I just kept asking how much it would change the look of it. She really tried…
Post # 15
are you kidding?? you’re kidding right? Girl, your dress is A-Ma-Zing on you! and like i discovered yesterday, I love it and the little secret sparkles it has. I just bought mine this past weekend too! And sure, I just ordered something amazingly expensive for me and now I have to wait for it and hope I don’t come across more bang for my buck… but i’m actually not worried about it at all, I bought my dress because I love my dress, and so did you. But boy is it hard to find something else to do while I wait for it!
and btw, having a “badass” pose helps I think 🙂
Post # 16
I thought your dress was pretty =D I love my dress too but I had some serious dress regret that came and passed about a month ago.
I still often go down the list of things I’m not the happiest with my dress (but I know it’ll be better once it fits right lol)
It’s hard to stay content when new and wonderful dresses are always coming out! I just look at mine for 5 minutes and picture myself walking the aisle/ dancing and having fun and realize I still love it and it’s still me! Plus my Fiance would cry if I said I didn’t want it anymore cause it was $1400 over our budget! Even if something else better came along I guess I’d just deal with the fact that I am only wearing it for a few hours anyway and I’ll look pretty no matter what.