Facing divorce- Please help

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 301
5999 posts
Bee Keeper

So this is the everything is wonderful it’s just that we had a talk and decided we want to try open marriage poster? The one who got so irate about people’s assumptions that something was amiss and let other less insightful posters take people to task for insinuating that this marriage had issues?

OP, your marriage is kaput and has been for a long time. Denial seems to be your forte, and that’s one skill it’s best not to have. I’d suggest therapy, but it wont help if you don’t want to live in reality; it will just be another place to spin your fanciful tales. 

Dear OP, please want something better for yourself. I say this with no judgement, as I am far from a perfect person. Don’t try to hang on to what isn’t real. Learn from your mistakes and grow.

Take care.

Post # 302
740 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2005

<<<<<was taken to task. 

Post # 303
267 posts
Helper bee

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mel76 :  Just to add that if you both pay for a lease, then your husband should continue paying and I hope he is. You cheated but you don’t have to foot the entire amount yourself as punishment.

I agree with this. He still has responsibilities and I hope he’s not avoiding them.

Post # 304
2975 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

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elderbee :  contrary to what you may believe, I’m not writing with pain because I disagree with people or people disagree with me. That sounds like a terrible way to live and I have no interest in it. It actually seems like you are holding on to that post more than I am which I find bizarre. I find the comments disgusting. I find the overall judgment on this post distasteful and you may not- to which, I don’t really care. I agreed with another poster and that’s that. 

Post # 306
8015 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

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anon97 :  I hope you will pursue individual therapy. You have a long life ahead of you and it’s up to you to make it spectacular.

Post # 307
282 posts
Helper bee

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anon97 :  Time to move on and start afresh. I hope you have reached out to family and friends for support.

Post # 309
210 posts
Helper bee

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anon97 :  You need a therapist now, not when the dust has settled on your divorce. 

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