Post # 1
Hey hive, here’s the situation: fiance and i will be getting married in October 2010 and it’s coming up on the one year out mark pretty soon. We haven’t decided where we’ll have the wedding yet, which I think is a pretty big factor in getting the ball rolling! He’s from England and I’m from America. We haven’t even decided where we’re gonna live in wedded bliss yet (we’re in Tokyo until we get married).
Another big hurdle is that we’ll be broke as a joke. Well, not really, but all our money will be tied up in fiance/spousal visas, we’ll be unemployed when we move, etc. etc. So basically we have bigger fish to fry and can’t spend all our savings on a wedding. We’d have to keep it under 5k (hello park/backyard/cake and punch reception) unless the parentals suddenly decide to pitch in. So this cuts out two receptions in two countries as an option.
Anyway, long story short, how did you decide which city to get married in? What factors should one consider when it comes to wedding location? Especially when two partners come from very different places (or, in our case, countries)? Having to make the decision when there are pros and cons to each country is so difficult!
Looking forward to your responses, cheers!
Post # 3
we’re similar in that our families are not local to where we’re currently living. my parents are in malaysia, my extended family is dotted everywhere. his entire family is in belgium. our friends are everywhere. we’re currently in ny (and have been for several years)
when making a decision, we factored: ease (and cost) of travel and accomodations, ease of planning (can you do it yourself, if remotely, is there someone you’d feel comfortabe asking to run around and look at things / check out venues, etc for you).
given the travel, it automatically was a small event. if everyone had showed up, it’d be about 250 people (which we couldn’t have afforded!). instead, we had an engagement party in belgium so most of his extended family could share in the moment. and we’re tagging a dinner to our honeymoon so he can meet my extended family too.
i know you can’t afford multiple receptions. these don’t have to be big things and they don’t have to occur within a specific time frame. but for us it was just an opportunity to be introduced to the rest of the family, which we don’t see much anyway since neither of us are living in our home countries.
btw, in lieu of gifts, we’ve asked for red packets (it’s a chinese tradition, which basically translates to cash gifts).
have you thought of a destination wedding? everyone would pay their own flights / acommodations. if you’re willing to do it in shoulder season, it could be a fun lowykey event.