Failed IVF- where did we go wrong

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
12340 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

First, you never know.  My friend showed me her numbers and thought she was going to get 5 eggs, her doc and I thought so too based on the sizes, and she ended up with 12!  Secondly, the rates at each step are just averages, you may end up with better numbers, just wait and see and don’t stress out until you have the results. 

What dose of stims were you on?  Unfortunately, sometimes cycle 1 ends up being a trail run to see how your body responds to meds.  

Good luck with retrieval.  Stock up on coconut water and protein bars for recovery. 

Post # 4
16 posts
  • Wedding: October 1999

First off many hugs. I have done 4 round of IVF, 2 resulting in full term pregnancies. IVF is taxing and tolling and the first IVF is really just trial and error. Some people get lucky and get pregnant on the first try and others it takes a few cycles to get to figure out the best protocal.


I was always a good responder. Made 28-30 mature eggs per cycle and had a good fertilization rate but by day 5 I only had a few that made it to transfer or freeze.

Higher numbers don’t always guarantee sucess. You rther have 3 or 4 good eggs then two dozen OK eggs. Stay positive, take lots of supplements, do yoga and acupuncture if you can and eat lots of pineapple at transfer and keep the faith and low stress.

Post # 5
1646 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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@MsTrulove22:  unfortunately, a lot of IVF is trial and error. I did a microdose Lupron flare protocol for my first cycle and it was the worst by far for me personally. Ultimately it took 4 cycles and one FET. Nobody warns you about that part. I was a poor responder but did eventually narrow down some issues that could be resolved that finally made the difference. It sounds cliche but it’s very true that all you need is one. 

Post # 6
27 posts

I just wanted to say hugs, bee!! My sister is going through IVF right now and it is just a brutal process. All the hard work is really a labor of love, and I know it can feel as intense or worse than a tragic love story when you love your future LO so much and you don’t feel the same coming back your way.

So here’s a little bit of that love back at you… you’re doing amazing!! Take care of yourself and relax and wallow and things will get brighter.

Post # 7
2082 posts
Buzzing bee

Don’t count yourself out yet.  You may have 4 great eggs growing.  I think a lot of people (myself included) expect a lot more eggs and embryos than is reasonable.  I’m a lucky one who had just two embryos but had a successful first fresh transfer.

Post # 8
614 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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@MsTrulove22:  don’t throw the towel in yet! I think I only had 5 mature eggs and only two of those fertilised. I thought we had no hope but both made it to day 5 blastocysts and one of those is now nearly two years old and a total sweetie. The other is on ice. I know how stressful and gruelling the process is. Reserve a bit of hope because you really never know. X if this cycle doesn’t work out, your fertility doctor will likely tweak your protocol. 

Post # 9
3948 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Don’t give up hope yet – those eggs may turn into healthy embryos!

I had the same IVF protocal twice with very different numbers of mature eggs, so some of it’s just chance. We also did PGS testing and even though I had many fewer eggs (and, eventually embyros) from the second round, those were all healthy, compared to only 25% of the embyros from my first, more productive cycle.

I’ve done it twice. If you need to go another round, it really is easier the second time because you know what to expect and your doc knows how you’ll respond to medications. 

Post # 11
517 posts
Busy bee

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@MsTrulove22:  any update? Hoping everything went well for you!

Post # 13
1808 posts
Buzzing bee

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@MsTrulove22:  what a fantastic update! Hope your luck continues when it’s time for your transfer ❤️!

Post # 14
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

So happy for you!!!

Post # 15
1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - California

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@MsTrulove22:  Wow, congratulations!! That’s awesome. So happy to see this update :). 

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