- 2 years ago
So, apparently “failure to launch” is much more than just a Matthew McConaughey movie. It’s a real issue where young adults just can’t seem to transition into independent adulthood. My younger brother has this soooo badly! He’s turning 30 this month and has never had a real paying job a day in his life. That entire sentence just strikes terror in my heart. 🙁 He went to college, was a 5th year senior, finally graduated, but never got his physical diploma because he had unpaid fees. Unfortunately, his major wasn’t anything great, he never interned, and never got a job in his field.
He’s lived with or grandmother since graduating and in all other ways is a fine man. He takes great care of our aging grandmother, cooks, cleans, shops, drive’s her around, renegotiated many of her bills, takes care of her finances, is otherwise well adjusted, self-aware(even about this issue, but obviously only to a very small extent), and is a great brother and uncle to my kids. He has many close high school friends, I can’t imagine they haven’t said anything to him over the years or maybe, like us, they have and nothing has come of it so, they just stop talking about it. All of his friends work, have girlfriends/wives, homes of their own, and that’s another thing, he’s had one know girlfriend back in his sophomore year of college and hasn’t so much as spoken to a woman since.
We had a rough childhood, dad was long gone, mom was a horrible alcoholic, we moved around(got kicked out) a lot, before our grandmother finally took custody of us. He never had a strong parental figure in his life and certainly didn’t have a male role model in his life, to this day he still doesn’t. We’ve brought it up over the years, but he just gets angry and defensive. Now, that he is on the cusp of his 30th birthday I’m terrified of what will become of him. Our grandmother is well into her 80’s and when she’s gone, what will he do? My husband would never allow him him to stay with us for any prolonged period of time, especially if he isn’t working and how do you get a job at 30 with zero job history? How the hell do you even begin to explain that?
I’m just worried and venting, but it would be nice to here from any Bee’s that have dealt with anything like this…