Post # 1
Hi! Okay so I have a fainting condition, so I pass out pretty often. My biggest fear is fainting during my wedding ceremony which is less than 3 weeks away now. Just last week I was getting my dress fitted to be hemmed and while the seamstress was measuring it on me, I fainted. I was standing for not even five minutes. Some of my triggers are pain, anxiety, and stress.
So I was thinking about it and the idea to say our vows while sitting came to mind. Has anyone ever done this? Is it weird? Is it awkward? We would be doing it for the sake of health and everything but I would want it to be tasteful. I just don’t know if this is something anyone has done and if my guests would think we’re being lazy or something silly like that.
Post # 2
I would sit. You don’t need added anxiety that you might faint, and it’s your day, screw what everyone else might think!
Post # 3
Ask your pcp about 1 small dose of xanax, like 0.25mg-the smallest dose. Usually they won’t have a problem prescribing 1 tablet for pre- procedure relaxation reasons. Just be honest and tell the truth, that you might faint from stress. It happens, but you don’t want it to happen to you.
Post # 4
I would sit, what does it matter what people think? You have to look out for your own health and I’m sure you’d rather sit than pass out and potentially injure yourself.
Post # 5
I have the same issue. I also struggle to stand due to joint pain. I’m having a church wedding (FI is Catholic). I can’t stand for 45 mins so I will speak to the Priest about a chair. Better seated than fainting! Also if you’re like me (PoTs) fainting could leave you feeling rough for the rest of the day.
Post # 6
You could work it into the ceremony to end up sitting by doing something like a “foot washing”. I, personally couldn’t do it, feet gross me out, but my cousin did it a few years ago for her wedding.
Here is a blurb I pulled from https://weddingtips101.wordpress.com/tag/feet-washing/ to explain it, if you haven’t heard of it before.
Feet Washing Ceremony: A beautiful idea for a Christian wedding. A sign of being humble, thoughtful, and willing to serve. Have a beautiful pitcher with just a little water in it, a bowl, and a sponge. The bride and groom take their shoes off, placed the sponge in the bowl, poured the water on top of the sponge, lightly washed each others feet with the sponge, the dried their feet off with a towel, and placed their shoes back on once they were done.You can get special monogrammed towels to go with it.
Post # 7
Depending on your theme, you could totally get yourself a seat that’s a beautliful part of of the decor (and a lovely way to display your gown, all spread out around you as you settle gracefully down on it) rather than an intrusive, utilitarian thing, by renting a chaise lounge or victorian sofa (or something else appropriately in-theme and decorative – a garden throne for a rustic wedding? A sofa of hay bales with a wagon wheel, buckets, and storm lantern accents for a barn wedding? There are lots of possibilities…) for a day. This is something that has come up on Offbeat Bride, for brides or grooms who have disabilities and are unable (for whatever reason) to stand for long periods of time, and this “decorative resting place” approach is one of the things that has been done by some people. It also makes for great photos (much better than a folding chair or the like), and can be used as a photo prop before and after the ceremony.
Also, if your ceremony venue and reception venue aren’t too distant from each other, you could have the bench/sofa/lounge/wahtever moved and use the same (hopefully comfortable) seat/bench to provide yourself with a resting place at the reception, if you need to sit down and rest during the party after the ceremony, or if you feel a syncope episode coming on (I don’t know if you get any warning or not before they occur, or if they’re very sudden). I imagine that if you do have enough warning to move to a chair, fainting on a bench or lounge would be much preferable to fainting on a folding chair. This “resting place” (and also “quiet room”) is again, something that comes up for people who have chronic pain issues, anxiety, etc, in dealing with the length and bustle of receptions.
Post # 8
If you need to sit, then sit. No one will judge.
To help with stress, make sure you have your morning planned out and aren’t rushing to get ready. I’ve seen many friends (when i was a bridesmaid) lose track of time and rush to finish their hair/makeup then run out the door.
Have lots of food, a relaxed atmosphere, lots of time to get ready, get to the church and a chair at the ceremony 🙂