Post # 47
@roweboat: Stay as you are. I mean it’s up to you, obviously, but I have to admit I find it a bit weird when I can barely recognize the bride in her photos. She drops 10+ lbs, does the hair differently, and her skin is way too dark. I see many of these situations. I think you want to be the best version of you on your day.
I’m very pale. I’d never consider doing a tanning bed. It creeps me out. Risk of skin cancer and a guarantee of wrinkles… no thanks. I probably wouldn’t do a spray tan either – I don’t want to look like an oompa loompa lol. Trust me – people would do a double take if I suddenly showed up w. a tan!
Post # 48
- Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA
@FMM: You’re so luck that you tan evenly. Even though I avoid the sun, if I get any, I tan sooooo unevenly it isn’t funny. I’ll look like I have dirty spots on my skin, but it’s just a tan! Yuck!
Post # 49
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Nope! I avoided the sun like the plague for 2 months before the wedding, slathering on SPF70, wearing a rash guard t-shirt when I tubing, hats, etc.
I had 3 moles removed from my back before the wedding- 2 that I wanted removed for aesthetic reasons, the other my dermo didn’t like the look of. And good thing- it had abnormal cells, and she ended up having to remove even more. The threat of skin cancer goes a long way as far as keeping you out of the sun.
Post # 50
I have no intentions on tanning before the wedding. I love being pale. I actually tanned a little bit on 4th of July and I am trying to get rid of the color I have.
Post # 51
I always feel more confident with some color, but after getting skin cancer about 4 years ago, I DO NOT TAN IN A TANNING BED! Now, I do lay out in the sun, but I do it in moderation and CAKE ON sunscreen. What makes you feel most confident? You could try a spray tan, but I’ve always been uneven and almost an orange from them, however I have heard that if you go to the right place they can turn out really well. I think in the end, a confident bride is the prettiest:) Good luck with whatever decision you choose:)
Post # 52
I’m pale, and will stay pale.
Post # 53
I’m naturally pale too (my nickname is Snow White), and unfortunately, I kind of have to tan before our wedding. I train with a swim coach once per week and I have developed the WORST tan lines on my chest and back. They are horrific and becoming more defined each week. I’ve started wearing strapless tops on the weekends when I do yardwork or run errands, that way I can slowly even out my wacky tan. If it were up to me, I’d be pale-me on our wedding day, maybe with a very light sun-kissed look.
Lastly, it really bothers me when people say that they want a tan so they look “healthy”. There is nothing unhealthy about being pale! Don’t buy in to the idea that tan skin = healthy skin; this is a dangerous misconception! If you want your skin to look healthy on your wedding day, take care of it with cleansers, moisturizers, and sunblock. (end rant…. sorry for the lecture!)
Post # 54
I’m worried about the same thing… I’m super pale with dark brown hair. My dilemma is that my Fiance has expressed that he would like me to look more tan on our wedding day… I’m in the same boat. I did do a spray tan for our e-pics and I sweated because it was outside and it rubbed off on the inside of my dress. I have heard it was because of the quality of the product though. Here are some pics for reference
Post # 55
I say dont do it. I think tan brides dont look great; all I can think about is all the skin/sun damage when I look at tan girls. I am pale too and don’t plan on tanning. I was recently in a wedding with a bunch of girls who looked like orange oompa loompas and I thought I stood out nicely among them. I am sure they thought they looked better than me and that I look pale, but what matters is that I was happy with how I looked. Also last year I spray tanned for a wedding and looking back, I looked like an oompa loompa
Post # 56
I assumed I would for awhile, just to get a bit of color ’cause I’m pretty fair, as well. Well our engagement photos approached and kept thinking about whether or not I should do it. First, it’s not cheap to pay for cancer. Second, I sat at home one night and we were watching some movie and I looked up the actress, I think it was Rachel McAdams, on IMDB and I suddenly noticed how fair she was and she was sporting that fair skin to events and looked gorgeous. At that point I realized that I’m going as is, pale and all! We did our egnagement pictures and they turned out great and I didn’t need to go to a tanning bed.
And besides, last thing you want is to look back at your wedding photos in 20 years and think, “why am I orange??”
Post # 57
@Jamieg: I did a spray tan years ago and it rubbed off on all my clothes, but I have heard that there are now better things, but I don’t want orange on my wedding gown 🙁
Post # 58
@Miss Mauverick: “Lastly, it really bothers me when people say that they want a tan so they look “healthy”. There is nothing unhealthy about being pale! Don’t buy in to the idea that tan skin = healthy skin; this is a dangerous misconception!”
There have been studies showing that it’s not the darkness of tanning that gives a “healthy” glow – it’s the yellowness. I read about one study where people were asked to manipulate the skin color of faces in photos until the faces looked healthiest. When they had the option to make people’s skin yellower without making it darker, they did that rather than make them look “tanner.” Apparently our skin gets yellower when we eat a diet high in fruits and vegetables. This is true for people of all skin colors. Tanning adds some yellow to the skin and so mimics, to a certain extent, the effect of eating lots of fruits and veg. But the darker skin tone from tanning is not what is giving the healthy effect. I thought that was interesting. So yeah, rather than hit the tanning bed you might want to hit the produce stand and start drinking carrot juice.
Post # 59
I found a place that does good airbrush tans. My make up artist recommended it, because my face is naturally darker than my cleavage. It was either the spray tan or covering up my cleavage with make up to get an even look. They made sure to use the lightest shade for me, so that I didn’t look artificially tan, or worse, like an oompa loompa. I did it three days before the wedding. By our wedding day, I had a nice light bronze glow.
Post # 60
embrace the pale!
I’m so pale you can almost see right thru me. If I came walking down the aisle with a tan everyone would think they were at the wrong wedding.
Post # 61