(Closed) Fair Wedding Friends Or Not

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
Member
21 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2008

BVBride,

The absolute best advice I got from one of my few married friends was this.  Don’t expect much from your bridesmaids, most especially the single ones.  She said ‘Your bridesmaids are your closest friends but that doesn’t mean they have any idea what they’re going through or are going to be any help.  Look to your married and engaged friends."  The first time she told me this I thought, uh no I guess your bridesmaids suck and mine will be fine.  6 months into my engagement and nothing could be farther from the truth.  I have trouble even getting email responses from my bridesmaids on their own dresses!

Everytime I open my mouth about the wedding I see their eyes glaze over.  Even if we’re talking on the internet!  Yeah, I’ve become a little obsessed but I really don’t bother them about anything but my dress, theirs and the venue.  So I, and my friend feel your pain.  My advice to you, look to wedding bee, and find a few amongst your friends who seem to be really responsive when you offer details about your wedding.  Expect that you love your bridesmaids but don’t ask more from them than picking a dress, purchasing it, and showing up.

 Just my two cents!

Post # 5
Member
148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

BVBride,

I haven’t had exactly the same experience, but I can relate.  None of my BMs (or my friends in general) are married, so they are only vaguely interested in the idea of my wedding.  Two have been great about trying on dresses with me and offering their opinion.   Getting a response from the other two is nearly impossible though.  The only thing I want from them, aside from showing up, is to do a bachelorette party, but if it doesn’t happen naturally, I’ll just organize something with them.  I know it’s not because they don’t care about me – it’s because the whole wedding and bridesmaid thing is new to them.

Post # 6
Member
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I totally understand what you are saying – hence my pity party post http://beachboundbride.blogspot.com/2007/12/under.html .

I think ttshoo‘s friends’s advice is right on the spot!  When I think about her words – it rings quite true in my case as well!  The friends in which I was in their weddings and the ones recently married are the ones most understanding, offering advice, and intertersted in the wedding details.  Which is also why weddingbee is great.  cuz we don’t want to cause everyone else’s eyes to glaze over.

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