- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
I hope this won’t be too long. I’ll be as brief as I can!
One of my good friends, childhood friends, and I have been going through a serious rough patch. When we got to college it was at it’s worst, she got in with an iffy crowd with looseness and drugs and so on. (A pinnacle moment of my distaste with her was when I first lost my virginity, she looked me square in the face and said “You know, no offense, but I also thought I’d be having sex before you”, a week later she lost hers to some random frat boy.) We had a pretty big blow-up and didn’t talk to each other.
Overtime, things started to patch up, and since I graduated college she has been saying “oh, yeah we need to hang out” but whenever I tried to make plans or ask her what she was doing, she would blow me off completely.
She’s always calling me when her friends are being lousy, complaining that they don’t treat her right, that they are not there for her and they don’t even try. Well jeez, that’s exactly what you’re doing, genius!
Over the passed few weeks, I have tried to make plans with her as her birthday was coming up and she invited me to go to lunch with her and her friends and family. I said I might be working but to let me know. She texts me a few minutes later saying that it won’t happen because her brother was driving his mom down south for a job interview (and she was all hissy that her family was being cruel by missing her birthday). I told her I was really sorry that they aren’t going to be around, but I told her to let me know what was going on.
So I text her the night before her birthday to say Happy Birthday and got no response. I let it go cause it was late and I figured she’d text in the morning. No response, so I asked her what was going on today and she said “Oh, I’m out to lunch with ____ and ____. I’m going to a bar later you should come.”
Now, none of you know me, but if you did, for 10 years especially, you would know I hate bars. At this point I was a little POed because she disregarded the fact that we were going to do something. I just texted her back that “Meh, I’m not a bar person, but I hope she has a happy birthday” No response.
~SO. I’m sending out my Save the Dates and I’m needing addresses, she just recently moved so I sent her a message “Hey what is your address?” No response.
I’m going to go ahead and say I’ve tried just about everything in my power to get our friendship back in order, but nothing has worked. I text her because she hates talking on the phone, in case maybe some think that she is sick of the text messages–I thought about that too. So anyway, in conclusion, I’m just not really sure what to do. I’m trying to let it roll of my back but it’s really difficult when I’m always there for HER but I can’t seem to get a decent response from her. Any thoughts??? :[
*** Sorry, this was not at all short. Thanks to all who respond <3