- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I’ve been meaning to post this for a while as we were married over two months ago now, but I’m only just getting to it! I thought for my recap I’d do a little “what I would change and what I wouldn’t” about all the endless wedding decisions we had to make!
What I Wouldn’t Change
- Getting a band over a DJ – worth every penny! My now Darling Husband and I argued over this the most of any wedding decision. He really didn’t want to pay the price of a band. I stood my ground and eventually won – and even he loved them so much! They were amazing and really helped the atmosphere. I have no regrets here.
- Photo booth – this was a last minute decision, I only booked it in the last couple weeks before the wedding. This was another choice my Darling Husband wasn’t happy about at first, but I got him around it pretty quickly. We had 20 people less on the guest list than we anticipated, so that more than covered the cost. And it was almost as popular with our guests as the band! Nothing makes me happier right now than looking at all our photo booth pics- they are priceless!!! I look at them and know that our guests had a fabulous time, and that makes me SO happy. Worth every penny.
- DOC – she was unbelievable! We only used her for the reception – she set up and tore everything down for us. She gave me priceless advice on the day (well, and beforehand too!) on numerous things, and helped me make quick decisions in the middle of all the chaos that is your wedding day. I shopped around to find a great DOC that was cheap ($500 for 8hrs of service) but also had fantastic reviews. I told her when we said goodbye she needs to raise her prices! She is well worth more than that. I was so glad to have her do all the dirty work that my family and friends would have had to do instead. I got to spend more time with all of them and didn’t have to ask any favours on the big day. I would have used her for the ceremony too but our ceremony site came with a coordinator.
- Cheaper flowers – I saved money on our flowers by finding someone with cheaper prices (actually the same girl that did our DOC) and not having flowers in our centerpieces. Our flowers were gorgeous (you couldn’t even tell they were at the cheaper end!) and I loved our lantern centrepieces instead. I had petals scattered around the lanterns and they were only like $15 for all our tables.
- No pinterest wedding – a friend of ours got married the weekend after us and her wedding was straight out of Pinterest. She DIY’ed pretty much everything and had a zillion little touches. It was beautiful. But looking at the pics (we couldn’t attend as we were on our honeymoon), all I thought was “gosh, that looks like SO much work!”. I am so glad I felt gratitude that I didn’t go down that route instead of jealously! I DIY’ed our placecards, seating chart, and table numbers and that was enough. Hardly anyone even noticed the placecards and just sat anywhere at their table, so I prob could have done without those anyways! I was happy with where I spent my time – on booking the right vendors, handwriting all our Save-The-Date Cards and invites, and helping our Out of Town guests manage their trip – and have no regrets on not spending more time on the little touches. This is a totally a personal decision, and the best I can hope for future brides is they make the one that’s right for them so they have no regrets!
- Paying for a better photog – we had narrowed it down to two and they had a ~$1500 difference. We went with the more expensive one and I’m glad we did- she was fab! Not only in the quality of the pics but in her approach on the day. My Mother-In-Law said she had never experienced a photographer who handled the family and general chaos of the day so well (and she’s married off three kids now!). She was cool and calm and just did a fantastic job.
- Being laid back – I somehow managed to roll with the punches pretty well on the day. I’ve seen many a bride that was a nervous wreck and I’m pretty damn proud of myself I didn’t flip out! The biggest thing was that our priest cancelled on us the day before. The deacon he sent in his place was nuts – he busted out a guitar and sang us a song (and made everyone sing along), presented us with a giant rock with our names on it (we live overseas – that rock was not coming home with us!), and mentioned numerous times how I would be baptised one day (no way is that happening) and how our relationship was built on God. Basically, our ceremony was NOTHING at all like I imagined it would be. It was pretty hilarious- some of our guests said it was the craziest ceremony they’d seen! But, that was part of the problem –we laughed through the whole thing. It wasn’t emotional or moving at all – neither of us shed a tear. But it what it is and I can’t change it, and I’m proud that I handled it like a champ on the day!
My motto on the day was “I don’t care” – whenever anyone asked me to make a decision on anything (except our DOC because she actually had important things for me to decide), I gave that response. Worked a charm! There were a few dramas on the day, and I didn’t get caught up in any of it. And everything ended up fine.
What I Would Change
- More time on photo booth – the owner called me a few before the wedding and asked me if we wanted to move the timelines back, he said usually people would rather use it at the end of the night. But I was stubborn and said no, I wanted it during the cocktail hour (and I didn’t want to pay more to extend it beyond the 4 hours). But when they packed up at 10, it was definitely too early! I wish I had sprang for another hour! My advice? Listen to your vendors! They’ve done this a lot more times than you!
- Videographer – I SO wish I had gotten one!!! Biggest regret. That being said, I only regret because we had so many crazy things happen at the wedding that I would love to have documented. First the ceremony. Then, my Darling Husband sang me a surprise song which was absolutely hilarious! A few people got it on their iphones but the quality is terrible and it’s so dark you can’t see. Also, the Best Man’s speech was fantastic. Actually, I loved all our speeches but his was the best and I would love to have that on video. However, if none of those things had happened, I wouldn’t wish we had the rest taped so it definitely wasn’t one of those things I could predict. Given our smaller guest count than planned, we could have fit it in the budget as well. So, that was a bit of a bummer!
And here’s one pic I’ll share – our fave!