- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2010
One of my best friends has been my Boyfriend or Best Friend for 10 years. We have been through a lot together. He is my age, 28. He’s a very good guy, but his past few girlfriends over the last few years have been incredibly bad choices for him. Some times I’ve voiced my opinion, but the majority of the time, I’ve just kept my mouth shut. He loves “love.” Every girl to him is “special” and “different than the last one.”Then I watch him get his heart crushed, only to do the same exact thing with the next girl: build her up to be a queen, then watch her hurt him.
However, his latest girlfriend has finally drawn that line between us. She is 15 years older than him with an 11 year old son. She is only a few years younger than his mother. When I found out they were dating, I told him my opinion that I thought he was making a huge mistake, and, well … now we aren’t friends anymore and haven’t spoken in over 2 months.
I found out that they have only been dating a few months and now they are engaged. He initially told me he was dating someone older, which I thought was good for him because he is very mature for 28 and the girls he had been dating were 23 or 24 and just young and dumb. But then some of our mutual friends started telling me about her and I was floored. My friend is a family man. He’s always talked about being a wonderful husband and father, always wanted children of his own. Our mutual friends say that this woman is always writing on her facebook how she “loves being a cougar” and belongs to all of these cougar groups.
He hasn’t always picked the right girls (but hey we all take a while to find the right one ), but this one is so off base and now he’s marrying her? He will never be able to truly have a family of his own. As long as I’ve known him, that’s always been something that’s been near and dear to him and to know that he won’t have that just breaks my heart.
I don’t feel like I’m being off base. I’ve gone with my gut. He’s repeating behavior, but now he’s taking it to a whole new level with getting engaged so fast to someone so much older.