(Closed) Fallen Soldiers Table (Marines)

posted 6 years ago in Military
Post # 3
891 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I understand where you are coming from, and I can appreciate the sentiment. However, I think it would put a damper on an otherwise celebratory time. I think it’s a bit too somber for a wedding reception.

Post # 4
667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think the ceremony would be a better place for this. 

Post # 6
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

As a guest I would feel this was a bit too heavy for wedding reception

Post # 7
12973 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it can be done really tastefully, or it can be done poorly.  Try googling it and see if you can find images of an example?  What about getting a memorial vase or candle, and typing up a little sign explaining what its in memory of? 

“This candle burns to remember those of our fallen comrades who could not be here to celebrate this day.  You are not forgotten.”  Or something like that?

I’d also put it off to the side rather than featured front and center.  I do think the empty place setting is a bit morbid though, unless it’s someone really major that’s being represented, like a parent or sibling. 

Post # 8
246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think if it’s meaningful to you two then do it. Every time i went to a ball and they had one it was a tad sad but it didn’t ruin the dinner or the dancing. And your family knowing your histories with the military they should undertand and respect it.


Post # 12
726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@clarakaboom:  I think that if many of your guests are also vets or active duty soldiers, it would be well received. I think that it would be a nice thing to do right before dinner, as part of grace or instead of grace (depending on what you were doing there). I don’t think I’d have the DJ do it though, I’d have someone from the wedding party give this speech to make it more personal and meaningful. I think after this speech is done, it may take a minute to get back to joyous talk around the room but I don’t think it would ruin the night.

I also think it would be something about your wedding that people would remember fondly. 

Post # 14
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I definitely thing it’s a very nice and honorable thing to include. Like Paigers said, perhaps having a person other than the DJ make the presentation would be more well-received. Alternatively, we did a candle memorial table at the ceremony – it had a votive for each loved one lost with their name and relation to us (i.e. John Doe, friend of couple, Jim and Jane Doe, Bride’s grandparents) and then a large pillar candle with a sign that said that the candles burned for all who have gone before us, etc.

Would you be comfortable with placing an upright card in a frame on the plate so that those who are intersted may go and read more about the tradition and respect and just make a brief mention during speeches? This way those who want to spend a bit more time reflecting are allowed a place to do so, but the shorter speech/mention will be less likely to affect the mood of your celebration. Just a thought, and either way, I think it’s a very great idea. 

Post # 15
1855 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think it’s a great idea. Like PP’s said- if it’s done tastefully, it will be a success.

Post # 16
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think it is sweet.  I think it is a great tribute.  But I think you should possiblydo thus as a quiet tribute.  Maybe set the table and then have a card that explains the simbolism.  Its a tough thing, and you just don’t know how it will be received.  I know my grandmother doesn’t handle those things well because of WWII. Also, some cultures think of wedding and death as taboo. Its up to you.  I personally think it’s touching. And its your wedding but you do want you guest celebrating not mourning. I’d check with a few family members first and see how they feel about it.

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