(Closed) Falling down the rabbit hole…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

yes! It’s a neverending list of requirements to make everyone else happy it feels like sometimes! I feel it too! We went from a list of 135 to 165 now to 194 when we sent out our invites 3 weeks ago! We had a lot of push back and most of it was from people who couldn’t understand why their new Boyfriend or Best Friend or their kid wasn’t invited. (we are having no kids under 16 , that would have increased our number to 230!) Sorry…you can’t please everyone.

My wise married bridesmaid gave me a good piece of advice. When it comes to the guest list- don’t invite anyone that you dont’ want to look back at 10 years from now and say “why did we invite that person to the most important day of our lives?” If I were you and you aren’t that close to Gram, i’d tell her no…

Post # 4
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827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Ugh yes.  And sometimes it requires just putting down your foot.  Our guest list was spiraling out of control with people being invited by FI’s parents who we had never met.  But we just said enough, and made everyone realize that while yes, there may be some people close to them that aren’ts invited, they’re not close to Fiance or me, and ultimately, it was a day about us.  Thankfully my parents understood this…. This has been the worst part of wedding planning to me, deciding who can and can’t come. 

Post # 5
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7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I totally know how you feel. When I was planning, my mother and I got into several fights. I wanted a small wedding, she wanted to invite 150 people. I refused to budge, she refused to budge and finally my brother got involved and told my mom that it was my wedding and she needed to respect that. In the end, I got my small wedding.You really have to put your foot down. It’s worth the drama, I promise.

Seriously, how much money have you laid out on this already? What about the option of canceling and eloping with a few people? Or if you can’t, have you sent out invites? If your wedding isn’t until August, there’s still time for you to have the wedding you want. Before you send invites/STDs, there is always time to trim the guest list.

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